Bit of a girl Issue. Need the advice of the fine folk of NSC for a "Friend"

[Lush]

If she's at uni how often is she at home?

Also she's probably going through this whole uni freedom/experimental/sexual politics phase. Nothing like having a much older man (yep that's you, grandad) to make you feel oh so interesting to your 18 year old uni mates.

 

[User removed 4]

If she's at uni how often is she at home?

Also she's probably going through this whole uni freedom/experimental/sexual politics phase. Nothing like having a much older man (yep that's you, grandad) to make you feel oh so interesting to your 18 year old uni mates.

exactly, he should take full advantage , the window wont be open for long.

 

[tinx]

5 PAges and no one has told him to smash her back doors in. I'm shocked. NSC has changed.

 

[Rugrat]

Thanks, I have sprayed coffee all over my laptop. Really made me laugh though

Well it was pretty obvious. I suspect this was the answer the OP was really looking for

 

[Randsta]

I love these threads!

 

[Benson]

you have to go deep, real deep.

Yep, what he said ^^^
Balls and all.

 

[Goldstone Rapper]

Yep, what he said ^^^
Balls and all.

What if they get stuck?

 

[Acker79]

How good is "your friend" with break ups and seeing exes with other guys?

As someone else has said, this is likely a crush. She has grown up with 'your friend' around and now she feels all adult and mature because she's 18 and striking out independently at uni. If 'your friend' starts a relationship with her, it may be fun for a while, but it likely won't last. The reality of the relationship won't match the fantasy. The different interests will become more of an issue, and when one or the other meets someone closer to their age with more similar interests. That's when things get awkward.

Would your friend be able to accept she no longer wants to be with him because he's too old, even though your friend is all "I'm barely into my thirties, what do you mean, 'too old?!" As a family friend, he will likely know about any relationship she has after him. Would your friend be able to hear about how happy she is with someone who isn't him? How she has been able to move on while your friend still wallowing in misery?

And what about the friendship with the parents? Would your friend be able to maintain that? Will your friend feel pressured to keep telling the parents things that the girl wouldn't want told because while they are your friend's friends, they are also her mum and dad. I mean aren't there things you would discuss with your friends that you wouldn't normally discuss with your girlfriend's parents? Would your friend be aware of that problem?

What if your friend ends it? How will it affect his friendship with the girl's parents if he's responsible for breaking their girl's heart?


Only your friend can know if he can handle all those issues, and if the girl is worth the risk, but if he can, and she is, I don't see a reason for him not going for it. If he is unsure, of knows he cant, he should probably just be flattered by the compliment and politely decline her advances.

 

[KZNSeagull]

exactly, he should take full advantage , the window wont be open for long.

I have never heard it called that before!

 

[chucky1973]

i think this thread now deserves a picture of the girl.

 

[Benson]

What if they get stuck?

He'll have to rest his laptop on her back, get back on here, and then ask for some more top quality advice.

This time with pics.

 

[User removed 4]

I have never heard it called that before!

 

[LE19]

He'll have to rest his laptop on her back, get back on here, and then ask for some more top quality advice.

This time with pics.

Skype!

 

[Ninja Elephant]

Go for it I say. Start by working on the mother. How much you care about her daughter and want to take things slowly etc. Spend some time round their house and over a few months you can work on convincing her that the age gap isn't important and that you and her daughter are suited. Think about the sort of things she likes and pretend you like them too etc. After a few months you can start slowly drawing her away from the clutches of her mother. Start making snide little comments like "I wwonder if you'll be as beautiful as your mother at 40". Comment on her hair. "Is that a new hairstyle?" "What's that mark on your face?" Things like that.Once you're shacked up together she'll be an emotional wreck and won't want to leave even if she could. And her Mum will still think you're brilliant. Can't promise anything but all I can say is that it worked for "a friend".

More gold from [MENTION=13433]Kumquat[/MENTION]!

You need to be careful if she is at Uni. If she's smart she may take a lot longer to emotionally cripple. I'd recommend bit by bit degrading the worth of whatever she is studying and what she wants to do as a career. Just laugh softly when she starts talking about it and then when she asks why you are laughing, just say "Nothing, really it's nothing" while laughing abit more like a ham actor in a very bad B-film. Over time she will start to doubt what she's doing and eventually you will have her eating out of your hand. Like a small goat.

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In fact that advice is so important I appear to have said it twice.

Double dose of genius!

I have never heard it called that before!

There've been a lot of funnies in this thread and this is right up there!

This is one of the best threads on here for a LONG time. Too much moaning rubbish, nowhere near enough frivolous advice giving!

 

[T soprano]

Can't see a problem there's only 10 years difference if it was alright for Ginger Chris Evans at 32 to date billie Piper at 17 you've got no worries lots of younger girls like a mature older man especially one with loads of cash

 

[red star portslade]

Right. My "Friend" has Got abit of a problem. Here goes.
"He" has know known this girl and her family for the longest time now. The other night she admitted to "him" that she had developed feelings for "Him". This Is where It gets kinda complicated. My "Friend" Is 29 and she Is 18. What does my "Friend" do In this situation? Go with "His" Instinct and go with her or would you be on to say she Is too young ect.

"He" Would be very greatfull for any advice or tips on how to deal with It.

At 18, no doubt she's had more cock than you've had clopper!
Go for it, you may learn some new tricks.

 

[coagulantwolf]

Being 20 myself, our female friends always tend to go for older guys (usually 2,3,4 years older kind of age). All us guys though even if we would accept him, would think of him just as a bit of a creep and wonder why he can't get a girl his own age (may be wrong to think that, but that is the general consensus of males my age).

Of course this shouldn't be the reason to stop. But I've always found that girls care about what their friends think, and if they think it's slightly creepy, then the thought might begin to grow on her.

 

[Goldstone Rapper]

Being 20 myself, our female friends always tend to go for older guys (usually 2,3,4 years older kind of age). All us guys though even if we would accept him, would think of him just as a bit of a creep and wonder why he can't get a girl his own age (may be wrong to think that, but that is the general consensus of males my age).

Of course this shouldn't be the reason to stop. But I've always found that girls care about what their friends think, and if they think it's slightly creepy, then the thought might begin to grow on her.

To be honest, that's just a matter of whether the OP's friend and the girl are open to other people's prejudices.

 

[Grombleton]

Number 18, Dick'er

 

[Puppet Master]

Personally, I'd steer clear.... it might be flattering and age gaps don't really matter but I'm guessing at 29, you're gonna want to start thinking about settling down and all the rest of it fairly soon.... in another 2 years for her, she might want to go travelling, or "see other people" (and all that other bullcrap women give you) so it's not worth the heartbreak. If she's still interested and free in say, 5 years, maybe give it a whirl.



Wow, now I've posted something sensible on this thread I'm off for a lay down....