We took him to return the stuff he'd stolen from the vets, having told them first, he left with a hug from the practice nurse :eyerolls:
Horse tranquillizers This is more serious than I thought.
We took him to return the stuff he'd stolen from the vets, having told them first, he left with a hug from the practice nurse :eyerolls:
He's got a little sister how can be quite horrid, she's firey and heart on her sleeve, with bouts of extreme violence.
Very close to being statemented at school, but is so blooming bright it's hoped she can work it out, and does show signs of improvement.
The thing is while all this is going on Jnr Stat loves it (and must be the catalyst for most of her behaviour) because he NEEDS to be little Mr Perfect, the best/first/quickest etc, and win everything.
Daughter Stat has had her longest period of 'normality', about 4 weeks, and he's hating it, his secret stash has been found, but as said he still thinks he's The King of Perfect World, inhabitant 1.
That's the problem, I just can't 'prick the bubble' he lives in.Perhaps just a serious b*llocking from your good self would be enough then? If he believes he's the king of perfect world, then bringing him down a peg or two might make him buck his idea's up - if he want's to talk the talk, he needs to walk the walk
That's the problem, I just can't 'prick the bubble' he lives in.
Believe me I've blooming well tried, I'm amazed all I feel I'm left with is a thwack.
I won't do it, I'm just gob smacked he's taken the lot and I'm still not getting through.
I think a kickin in the cells, is going a bit too farMaybe ask Edna K for some advice on it??
Quick question, it's a bit personal - do you have another child that is more... problematic? Both me and my sister went through a phase like this. I did it around 12/13 for attention and remained a bit of a cock until 14/15 as a result of my parents attention being constantly focused on my troublesome sister who went through this phase from 12 until 16 - and was/is a shit still sometimes.
Otherwise PCSO. When i did it, i stole from the Co OP by my school until my friend got caught and he said he knew i was doing it but didn't catch me.
I bought a pack of revels and a pack of Polo's from the change i was given for the papers and a chat with an officer stopped me there and then. You say you don't want to resort to corporal punishment, i did get the odd smack on the bum/leg when i was REALLY out of line, but in this case, i wasn't.
Get the highest ranking uniformed police officer friend you can to have a word. See if they can't take him up the Custody suite for a tour. It might seem harsh to scare him like that but it does work.
Big danger of a back fire here I think if attention seeking is at the root of it all. This will only indulge him if you bring in outside agencies to indulge him, and may even persuade him to up the ante to gain even more attention.
However, the consequences to actions lesson is a vital one to be taught I think and he needs to know his behaviour is not acceptable. I'd make that point clearly and firmly, but not labour it. I admire your stand on hitting, I'd never raise a hand to any of mine as I'm a great believer in violence begetting violence, and besides, as parents we have a 1001 tools in our box before we resort to smacking. For me, smacking is an admission of failure, aside from being damn right cruel and an abuse of your position ( this isn't to say I don't believe in tough love).
My signature used to be : "Children need your presence more than your presents". I'd go down the route of talking to him to see if he can explain his actions openly and honestly and letting him know you're on his side but that his actions will need to change. Give him as much of your time as possible, but without indulging him as such. Very tricky balance to be struck, but hey, who ever said parenting was going to be easy.
Good luck.
I think a kickin in the cells, is going a bit too far
8 year old jnr stat has been on a stealing and lying mission, over the last few weeks.
It all came to light a week ago, and so far no consequence has even 'pricked his bubble'.
So much so in fact he's carried on stealing from shops, as well as other thefts from around the house.
Long before getting to this point, 8 year old me, I would have taken one of the very few slaps that was handed out, in my yoof.
For lots of reasons I can't/don't want to 'solve the problem with violence', to adopted Jnr Stat, but it's sure as hell what I think he 'needs'.
Come on chaps I need some consequences that'll make him sit up and take notice.
If he's adopted, can't you give him back?
As his behaviour has snowballed, over the week or so, so have the consequences.
So far he's had no Wii, no DS, no Easter, no responsibility (obviously he craves responsibility), rollockings from us, his head teacher (stolen from school, too), words/shame with the vets, and had to write to all the people he's returned Easter eggs too, explaining why.
He's currently in his room, and may well eat his tea there.
Little Miss Stat is crashed out watching a film, I guess you get to a point when this parenting lark is a piece of wee-wee.