Acceptable Lateness?

[brightonlass2009]

Was waiting around for a guy for around half an hour, didn't text me to explain why or anything. Believed he's stood me up so just got bored and walked off. Finally got a message saying he'd arrived, and met up nearly 50 minutes after the initial time (by then still seething and almost just cancelled the whole thing)

So what do you all think an acceptable level of lateness is?

 

[Lush]

None, in the age of mobile phones.

 

[clarkey]

One of my OCDs is lateness; I hate being late anywhere and I hate people being late. I have never got to a game less than half an hour before KO in case theres traffic etc on the way from Eastbourne.

Id say 15-20 mins is just about acceptable without contact, any longer and its just rude.

 

[ali jenkins]

Anythng longer than 10mins needs a text/call I think

 

[Lush]

Oh - and cue lots of guys saying that they would NEVER treat a lady this way and you're better off without him ...

 

[Garage_Doors]

5-10 mins max.

50 mins is saying lack of interest without explanation.
Did he explain why ?

 

[brightonlass2009]

One of my OCDs is lateness; I hate being late anywhere and I hate people being late. I have never got to a game less than half an hour before KO in case theres traffic etc on the way from Eastbourne.

Id say 15-20 mins is just about acceptable without contact, any longer and its just rude.

I'm glad that isn't just me. Most people think I'm strange for having to be on time or early for everything.

 

[brightonlass2009]

5-10 mins max.

50 mins is saying lack of interest without explanation.
Did he explain why ?

Nope, no explanation. Which was why I was very tempted to just tell him to forget the whole thing. Was not a happy girl when we finally met up

 

[ali jenkins]

Nope, no explanation. Which was why I was very tempted to just tell him to forget the whole thing. Was not a happy girl when we finally met up

But were you a happy girl after you met up?

 

[Lush]

I'd have gone home. He's probably just seeing how much of a doormat you can be.

 

[brightonlass2009]

But were you a happy girl after you met up?

Nope, all that waiting around and nothing came out of it....

 

[matthew]

1 minute, MAX.

 

[Deleted member 2719]

I'd have gone home. He's probably just seeing how much of a doormat you can be.

That hardly fair the poor guy was probably held up by the missus.

 

[Gully]

Sorry, but that is not acceptable behaviour...if he thinks he can get away with leaving you standing for the best part of an hour without a very reasonable excuse then he really is a turd...you are probably better off without him.

As has been pointed out, how difficult is it to send a quick text, or call you, to say that he is on the way but something has happened to delay him...it is just good manners and hardly rocket science.

I have always believed that the man should get to wherever the date is before the lady, so she isn't left standing around like a spare part...I don't care if I am...I am always there at least 5 minutes before the agreed meeting time.

 

[ali jenkins]

Nope, all that waiting around and nothing came out of it....

Thats not on!

 

[markw]

Nope, all that waiting around and nothing came out of it....

Your not doing it right

 

[brightonlass2009]

Your not doing it right

Oh believe me, I was

 

[Lush]

He's probably just seeing how much of a doormat you can be.

As I said ...

 

[brightonlass2009]

I have always believed that the man should get to wherever the date is before the lady, so she isn't left standing around like a spare part...I don't care if I am...I am always there at least 5 minutes before the agreed meeting time.

Very few guys I know seem to think like that, :S

 

[brightonlass2009]

I'd have gone home. He's probably just seeing how much of a doormat you can be.

Story of my life.