Tricky Dicky
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Have just been along to the bridge to lay my flowers and it's an impressive effort by everyone. A lot of people there paying their respects, I thought there would be some, but there were probably hundreds.
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Shoreham Air show crash
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Blazing Apostle
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- Jul 30, 2011
- 319
Just come back from the bridge after laying some flowers with my daughters - very moving
British Bulldog
The great escape
- Feb 6, 2006
- 10,899
Had one at my door this afternoon, I can't put into words how disgusted I feel about them.
Gullflyinghigh
Registered User
- Apr 23, 2012
- 4,279
Very glad they've not got this far into Lancing yet. I'd imagine I sit just far enough way that they wouldn't expect a gruesome story, so not worth the effort.
I feel nothing but loathing for those vultures.
The Upper Library
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- May 23, 2013
- 675
When I went down to the foot bridge to lay my flowers yesterday I couldn't help but feel some degree of resentment towards all the TV station vans there. This tragedy however being so close to home and so profoundly affecting me has also made me look at how I have in the past used media to look at other tragedies. Whilst news needs to be conveyed to the country and beyond I just find the media circus so distasteful -
- Jul 7, 2003
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I think somebody has already mentioned the upset reportedly caused to the Reeves family by the Mail journalists. Mr Reeves' son has posted on Facebook just how distressing an experience that was, and how a situation that's already heartbreaking for the family has been made worse thanks to the Mail Online.
Sometimes you wonder if journalists like this have an ounce of humanity in them. Professionally, I have a bit of a specialism as a family liaison officer, which means I get deployed to work with families who've suffered the loss of a relative in sudden/ unexpected circumstances, usually in the first few, desperately raw hours after it's happened. It's hard enough communicating with people who are overwhelmed by grief, even when, as in my case, you're trying to offer them care & assistance. I can't even imagine what sort of person you'd have to be to start haranguing people in such a situation, and effectively threatening them with losing control of their memories of that person. Contemptible individuals.
Tricky Dicky
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There was just one van when I went today, and they weren't filming, just sitting in the van. Most have lost interest now we're not the top story, other things to go to.
- Jul 7, 2003
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I get that they have to fill pages. I understand that some of the most visually shocking images are an important part of our means of understanding certain situations.
But I can barely bring myself to read some of the stuff they post about given situations now. Some of the personal detail & (made-up) opinion they publish, I can't bring myself to read, as it feels horribly voyeuristic. When I'm dealing with grieving families, I have to warn them that the local press will scope out the social media accounts of the deceased, as well as those of the rest of the family and friends. I have to explain that they are legally entitled to publish any photograph on there that is in the public domain, and any comments left by them or others.
If you're a mother grieving the loss of a (say) nineteen year old son in a car crash, the last thing you want to be worrying about is walking down the street to see his face unexpectedly staring out at you from a newspaper billboard. Maybe it was a treasured photo, a family favourite: in which case that image becomes seared on their mind as a symbol of awful times, rather than the happy memory it used to be. I accept that we should probably all be more aware of our social media settings, as most of us know what is and what isn't public. But it's still unpleasant for traumatised people to deal with. It's not until I started doing my current job that I realised just how much of what newspapers write is made up. With little thought to the impact that might have upon some poor soul.
I accept they have a job to do, but it's turning into grief-trolling.
Beach Hut
Brighton Bhuna Boy
Went down to the Toll Bridge today to place some flowers it was very moving until someone asked if we would speak to ITN News, made it all rather vulgar really.
Very sad indictment of things when news crews have to intrude on things like that.
It's not a recent thing I can assure you. I know from personal experience that the Sun were harassing grieving families in the 70's.
Cadiz Seagull
Grey bearded old man
I've often wondered, do we derserve the press we get or do we get the press we deserve?
But that's a discussion for another thread, not this one.
But that's a discussion for another thread, not this one.
thedonkeycentrehalf
Retired
- Jul 7, 2003
- 8,666
Strangely, when we first heard of the accident and saw the initial pictures I thought that they might have been affected but since then had totally forgotten about the little community tucked away there. I'd assume that they may have been moved away for a few days given the risks that the emergency services were raising about the fuel on the crash site.
Sheebo
Well-known member
- Jul 13, 2003
- 29,297
Hats off to you for your job - I honestly don't think I could do it - too upsetting etc
You should be proud of what you do 
Woodchip
It's all about the bikes
Just for those that are interested in how this is covered on the other side the world.
BensGrandad
New member
An aviation expert said the same in yesterday papers that he saw a little orange flash which indicated an engine misfire which even for a second would cause it to lose its height, similar to a car backfiring and apparently on that aircraft it didnt have afterburners so should not have happened.
The Fifth Column
Retired ex-cop
They are bearing up remarkably well I can report and dealing with it all as best they can. Quite a reslient community as you'd expect. I'll pass on your thoughts.
Not remotely self-indulgent GB, just beautifully put. Thanks for sharing.