Chesney Christ
New member
Dear NSC,
I need some guidance on how to deal with a difficult issue. I won't bore you with the gory details but the basics of the story are this: Around 5 months ago I asked someone to do something for me (a fairly simple request to get hold of a particular item for me) which they agreed to do and said it wouldn't be a problem.
After waiting for several months without anything happening I got back in contact with them via e-mail and asked if they could still do it. After several requests I finally got an extremely short and very vague response to my original e-mail assuring me that it wouldn't be a problem getting hold of said item. I offered to pay the person for their trouble but they said that as the cost was minimal they would do it for free. We agreed that in return for their kind favour I would donate a small amount of money to a charity that they were heavily involved in.
The person then told me that they would be doing it on the following Sunday afternoon and I agreed to collect it Monday (awaiting details of the address I should collect it from). This was two weeks ago now and nothing has happened. Despite sending several e-mails since, (most of which were ignored) I have had nothing more than a couple of incredibly short responses assuring me that they were doing it, but not really explaining why it hadn't been done or when they were gonna finally do it.
I have obviously given up all hope of ever seeing said item but do people think I am justified in feeling just a little bit peeved with the person in question because they told me they would do it or am I being an ungrateful sod who shouldn't assume that people will always do what they say they will?
I need some guidance on how to deal with a difficult issue. I won't bore you with the gory details but the basics of the story are this: Around 5 months ago I asked someone to do something for me (a fairly simple request to get hold of a particular item for me) which they agreed to do and said it wouldn't be a problem.
After waiting for several months without anything happening I got back in contact with them via e-mail and asked if they could still do it. After several requests I finally got an extremely short and very vague response to my original e-mail assuring me that it wouldn't be a problem getting hold of said item. I offered to pay the person for their trouble but they said that as the cost was minimal they would do it for free. We agreed that in return for their kind favour I would donate a small amount of money to a charity that they were heavily involved in.
The person then told me that they would be doing it on the following Sunday afternoon and I agreed to collect it Monday (awaiting details of the address I should collect it from). This was two weeks ago now and nothing has happened. Despite sending several e-mails since, (most of which were ignored) I have had nothing more than a couple of incredibly short responses assuring me that they were doing it, but not really explaining why it hadn't been done or when they were gonna finally do it.
I have obviously given up all hope of ever seeing said item but do people think I am justified in feeling just a little bit peeved with the person in question because they told me they would do it or am I being an ungrateful sod who shouldn't assume that people will always do what they say they will?
