Long Distance Relationships

[virgirlo]

Does a two hour train journey count?
And do they work?
And can I be bothered?

Advice needed...

 

[Tony Meolas Loan Spell]

No

Yes

Only you can answer that. If your heart isnt in it then no point carrying on. Unless like one of my mates you have to have a partner coz you just cant stand the thought of being single.

 

[hans kraay fan club]

Does a two hour train journey count?
And do they work?
And can I be bothered?

Advice needed...

How fit is he / she. Stick a picture up, and we'll vote on whether she's / he's worth two hours on a train.

 

[virgirlo]

No

Yes

Only you can answer that. If your heart isnt in it then no point carrying on. Unless like one of my mates you have to have a partner coz you just cant stand the thought of being single.

Most certainly not...I have been single for two years and really enjoy being independent. But I do quite like the guy and would like to see how things go, but weekends only is a pain in the arse as I go to Albion games and he plays rugby (not usually into rugby men either!)

 

[Meade's Ball]

Is there a nice place to meet in the middle?
I went out with a girl in Yeovil. That was a horrible place, so we'd meet elsewhere for weekends. Talk in the evenings. It weren't easy and it turned out to be one of the worst decisions of my life, but not because of the distance.

 

[Scoffers]

So he's not in to football and you are still going out with him. I think you have your answer my dear.

Ditch him, there are plenty of potential partners who go to Brighton games !!

 

[robbied69]

No way. I went out with a girl for about 8 months and she lived in Woodford. It was a pain to get to. Sometimes I might like to just go and meet them and take them out as a surprise (e.g. a meal or something) so if they're not there its a wasted journey.

Also, its nice when your really close to each other. So if your feeling crappy and you want someone there for a hug or chat you can just meet up, plus the obvious if your feeling horny.

This may seem wierd but with them being so far away they don't really get to know your mates etc which is really important. At least when there close by they can make that effort.

So long-term relationships are a big no-no for me. However, if your a fan of driving or sitting on trains do it. I'm just moving into a place with 2 mancs. One's just split up with his gf in Manchester because he knows it will not work.

 

[London Calling]

.....had long distance relationship. Leeds - London. Only used to see each other every 2 or 3 weeks. Intense weekends. But didn't work out, because both of us wanted the weekends to socialise with other people. And I wanted to the BHA a bit more!

LC

 

[bhafc99]

In my experience, yes.

I met a girl three weeks before I moved from London to Edinburgh. Despite being 400 miles apart for over a year, the relationship blossomed, and we're still together four years on (though now together in Maidenhead!).

In fact, if I'm honest, I slightly prefer a distance relationship.

It gives you both a degree of personal space and time, as you're not in each other's face all the time.

It DOES make the time together more precious, despite that being a cliche. When we were distance-relationshipping, we'd do something special every weekend. Now too many of them are lost to the Tescos/DIY/local pub vortex that is average domestic life.

And it made us do things like exchange emails/'little things in the post' etc more often, which can be a nice way to nurture a relationship rather than just grunting at each other over EastEnders.

 

[bhaexpress]

Mine didn't ! And it was very long distance athough Mrs BHA and I remain the best of friends.

 

[Goring Gull]

From experience i would say no, girl i was seeing when i was 18 moved to Bournemouth - even though i drove after the novelty of new surroundings i soon became hacked off with the drive down there and never seeing my mates and if i'd have to have done it on the train i'd have had enough far sooner. Meet some girl back in Worthing and had both on the go for a month or so, luckily girl in bournemouth decided to end it, at least she had the balls to say so, and she or the other girl never found out about each other.

Also after meeting some mancunian bird on holiday years ago deceided to see each other for a while although on casual basis that soon fell apart.

 

[Highfields Seagull]

Why not give it a try for a bit? What have you got to lose?

2 hours on a train isn't that much and, other commitments aside, would give you more or less whole weekends.

 

[virgirlo]

Thanks for the advice.

Have already been out with a couple of brighton supporters....didn't work. At least by seeing someone who is into rugby means no football arguements. And the distance means that I can keep my space, nothing worse than CLINGY MEN!!

But I would love to have more hugs, kisses and general naughtiness....any offers

 

[Trigger]

 

[Marshy]

Get a pet for company in the week

 

[robbied69]

In my experience, yes.

I met a girl three weeks before I moved from London to Edinburgh. Despite being 400 miles apart for over a year, the relationship blossomed, and we're still together four years on (though now together in Maidenhead!).

In fact, if I'm honest, I slightly prefer a distance relationship.

It gives you both a degree of personal space and time, as you're not in each other's face all the time.

It DOES make the time together more precious, despite that being a cliche. When we were distance-relationshipping, we'd do something special every weekend. Now too many of them are lost to the Tescos/DIY/local pub vortex that is average domestic life.

And it made us do things like exchange emails/'little things in the post' etc more often, which can be a nice way to nurture a relationship rather than just grunting at each other over EastEnders.

Its good to see your one worked. But say for example, one weekend she's busy. Then the following he's busy for example. Then that'll be 3 weeks they don't see each other. I couldn't go without seeing my gf for that long.

 

[seagull247]

 

[Goring Gull]

The personal space issue , always been the biggest prob in any relationship i've had, even my current one teh one thing we argue about most is if i want to have a bit of peace ocassionally, nothing worse than getting in from a12 hour shift to be bombarded with aload of waffle.

 

[Highfields Seagull]

But I would love to have more hugs, kisses and general naughtiness....any offers

I'd offer, but I'm about a two hour train journey away

 

[seagull247]

Virgirlo. Surely not cheating on your new man!!