[Misc] Just some stuff I need to express somewhere...

[HyperTony]

I've been through the experience of a parent dying and then arranging everything afterwards inc Finances, belongings, Funeral etc...the one thing that would have really helped is some more idea from my Mum what she wanted. Having those conversations with your Dad, if you can will help. In the UK you need to be named as an executor to adminster a deceased person's estate, if not it's fvck of a lot harder to do. I'm assuming Sweden would have similar rules. (Thinking about bank accounts etc...)
You mentioned your Dad worked on removing Asbestos from old houses, in the UK there is a government run scheme to compensate individuals/families who have been affected by Cancer caused through working with Asbestos, i don't know if this is replicated in Europe.

When it comes to grieving, there is no right or wrong way, i had time to get used to the imminent death of my Mum and so when it happened there was relief on my behalf because she was no longer suffering.
I arranged everything and it was only at the funeral i broke down. It was a release allowing the loss to hit home and however closure works for you is right, but face it though.
It's important to accept it's happening as it allows you psychologically to envisage a world without your loved one in it. That's my take anyway.

As per other excellent posts, i wish you all the very best in everything you're dealing with.

 

[Han Solo]

Just 15 minutes ago received a call that my dad died last night.
I am in a short sigh of relief, in between two emotional deep dives. Yesterday I was worried for the umpteenth day in a row, tomorrow I will deal with uncontactable half-siblings, one-eyed 15-year-old cats. Sooner rather than later I will yet again start to think of memories, these ugly things that tend to invoke terrible sadness. Right now I'm able to push those memories away, while exploring this new emotional environment of empty relief... and old habit of writing on NSC.

It feels ok. The emotional truck is coming but for now I will try to eat something good and enjoy the calm spring sunshine.

 

[Tom Hark Preston Park]

So very sorry to hear that @Han Solo. Sincere condolences mate

 

[Pogue Mahone]

So sorry to hear this. All the best. Tough times, but you’ll get through it. Solidarity.

 

[chip]

Take care, enjoy nature and look after yourself. All our journeys end in the same place, find some comfort in the journey. I hope things have improved in other areas for you.

 

[Gabbiano]

Just 15 minutes ago received a call that my dad died last night.
I am in a short sigh of relief, in between two emotional deep dives. Yesterday I was worried for the umpteenth day in a row, tomorrow I will deal with uncontactable half-siblings, one-eyed 15-year-old cats. Sooner rather than later I will yet again start to think of memories, these ugly things that tend to invoke terrible sadness. Right now I'm able to push those memories away, while exploring this new emotional environment of empty relief... and old habit of writing on NSC.

It feels ok. The emotional truck is coming but for now I will try to eat something good and enjoy the calm spring sunshine.

My condolences, sorry to hear that. I'm glad at least that you managed to connect with him a little before he passed.

Try to take a little time to just mourn, reflect and adjust if you can, before you dive into all the bureaucracy and everything else that has to be done now.

 

[BadFish]

Sorry to hear this. Sending strength.

You got this.

 

[Weststander]

Sorry to hear of your loss. I hope things work out for you.

 

[Hugo Rune]

Sad to hear about this. Many condolences @Han Solo

There is no wrong or right way with grief. Travel your own path. Best wishes.

 

[alanfp]

Sad news. but pleased you've shared it here.

Take your time. And accept help from anyone who offers it.
As well as knowing how to navigate all the admin., funeral directors (in my experience) are good listeners and will do whatever they can to lighten your load - they wouldn't be in their job otherwise.

All the best.

 

[Lever]

Sorry I am late to the discussion; at least you have managed to negotiate the first hurdles...... to vent and assess your situation, albeit with a heavy dose of black humour.

Few if any of us on here will be able to offer practical advice at this stage, but judging by the responses to your desperate situation, the vast majority of us have high emotional intelligence and wish you only good things. It may be that further down the line someone can offer direct help, but in the meantime please accept genuine and sincerely felt sympathy.

 

[Insel affe]

Sorry Hans, I have nothing to offer in advice or words of wisdom.
other than stay strong, and my thoughts are with you x

 

[papachris]

Very sorry to hear about your dad's passing. Wishing you strength going forward

 

[Paulie Gualtieri]

Sorry for your loss Hans.

At least you got to spend some quality time with him at the end.

There’s no right or wrong way in dealing with grief but take any help offered, it really does make things easier with everything going on.

All the best, stay strong

 

[Guinness Boy]

My sincere condolences @Han Solo

Having lost my dad last year, all I can add that’s useful is it hits you at the most unexpected times.

 

[dazzer6666]

Sorry to hear that fella. Hope everything works out as well as it can, as others have said look after yourself first.

 

[Si Gull]

So sorry to hear that, Han. I hope you get all the support you need to help you through the difficult time ahead. Stay strong!

 

[oldboyroy]

Sorry about your predicament Hans and I hope someone somewhere will give you advice/help. Take care of yourself and keep posting buddy! Deepest condolences to you in this sad time

 

[Harry Wilson's tackle]

Just 15 minutes ago received a call that my dad died last night.
I am in a short sigh of relief, in between two emotional deep dives. Yesterday I was worried for the umpteenth day in a row, tomorrow I will deal with uncontactable half-siblings, one-eyed 15-year-old cats. Sooner rather than later I will yet again start to think of memories, these ugly things that tend to invoke terrible sadness. Right now I'm able to push those memories away, while exploring this new emotional environment of empty relief... and old habit of writing on NSC.

It feels ok. The emotional truck is coming but for now I will try to eat something good and enjoy the calm spring sunshine.

Best wishes.
You know where we are.

 

[Freddo]

Really sorry to hear that, sending my condolences. Hope the next phase goes as well as it can.