How long should you wait before dating after a breakup?

[nwgull]

People who go back to an ended relationship do so because they're scared of being single. Don't fall into that trap, being single is way way better than being in a mediocre relationship. Just imagine your dream woman and remember that all the time you're with someone who isn't her, you'll never get together with someone who is.

For what it's worth, I really disagree with US's opinion about blokes taking it worse. It tends to be the dumped partner who takes it worse, obviously.

 

[HastingsSeagull]

Ask yourself how you'd feel if in 6 months she wants to get back together but you know for a fact she's been smashed by 6 other guys in that time. If would still want her back knowing that, you're not over her and should wait and see and be moderately good. If you'd tell her where to go then hopefully you're over her and should move on slow but steady. Only you'll know the facts and have a proper feel for your relationship though.

 

[Norman Baker suck my lozenge]

Get yourself over to Prague,shag a few tasty whores,come home,nuts empty and try again with your girlfriend,sorted.

 

[Jam The Man]

After my 7 year relationship ended, I had my first date after 5 months.
Really didn't enjoy it!
Left it another 2 months, and went out with a girl for a month before the cold realisation that I was on the rebound...didn't think it existed til then.

Eventually, nearly a year after the original break up, I met my current gf.
Been with her for 2 1/2 years now, just had a baby and will be getting married next year.

My advice is just to take your time, but don't expect the first new one to be the right one

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

People who go back to an ended relationship do so because they're scared of being single. Don't fall into that trap, being single is way way better than being in a mediocre relationship. Just imagine your dream woman and remember that all the time you're with someone who isn't her, you'll never get together with someone who is.

For what it's worth, I really disagree with US's opinion about blokes taking it worse. It tends to be the dumped partner who takes it worse, obviously.

Men take being dumped worse than Women is what I am saying in general. As this OP in only 22 this changes things somewhat as he is no age. If you love her fight for her and then back off.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

When you can imagine her being banged by another guy and not feel pshyically sick you are getting over her. Until then you are not.

 

[ATFC Seagull]

Most worrying thing for me is that quite a few people have suggested that this is an opportunity to go for a few beers with your mates. What kind of Mrs' do you lot have?!

 

[Seagull27]

Why have one pussy when you can have a lot? seriously, why?

 

[jackanada]

FYI. If your ex is 24 quite tall a bit chubby and has a wide face I was banging her most of last week and she's never had it so good.
Prob not the same less but she'd just broken up so just in case it is you should know.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

Why have one pussy when you can have a lot? seriously, why?

It's an opinion but if you want to be in relationship with a Woman it's not really an option is it ? As I get older I find it is much better and means so much more if you actually care about the Woman. Old fashioned I know but there you are.

 

[perseus]

Don't take ghosts along with you.

 

[sir albion]

The best thing is to get out and bang some birds,have some fun rather than think relationships

Good luck

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

Don't take ghosts along with you.

This. Unless you have got over the ex she will be a monkey on your shoulder and if you have sex with another Woman feeling like this you will feel like shit afterwards.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

The best thing is to get out and bang some birds,have some fun rather than think relationships

Good luck

At 22 I think this is right but at nearly 50 as I am it is not how I think anymore. I want something more meaningful at my stage of life.

 

[mistahclarke]

FYI. If your ex is 24 quite tall a bit chubby and has a wide face I was banging her most of last week and she's never had it so good.
Prob not the same less but she'd just broken up so just in case it is you should know.

hey, wait a minute, what's her name?

 

[sir albion]

At 22 I think this is right but at nearly 50 as I am it is not how I think anymore. I want something more meaningful at my stage of life.

50's good still although forget the banging and focus on blow jobs

Like the chaps above say you must cut all ties with the ex to move on properly

 

[Dick Knights Mumm]

Shirley the best thing is to start dating before you break up.

 

[nwgull]

It's an opinion but if you want to be in relationship with a Woman it's not really an option is it ? As I get older I find it is much better and means so much more if you actually care about the Woman. Old fashioned I know but there you are.

Nothing wrong with it all, in fact sex in a long term relationship is usually better than sex with a stranger - assuming your bird isn't a shit shag. The problem many men have is that they think that their woman is the only one in the world and that they'll never get anyone else like her. This results in them having their lives controlled by their girlfriends or wives. The women in these relationships will then lose respect for their boyfriends/husbands and get bored and have affairs with men who are 'bad boys' to provide them with a bit of excitement.

 

[Triggaaar]

we still know we 'love each other' but not in the way we used to, but just as really good friends if that makes any sense.

...

or should I just wait a while and try again with her (which is what I want)

Make your mind up. Why do you want to get back with her if you only love her as a friend?

And 4 years is not a short amount of time, so if you want to get back with her what are you after, another couple of years or possibly marriage? If it's the latter, you do everything you can to get back with her.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

The bottom line is if you still love her fight for her like you never fought before in your life. I mean lay it on the line and then leave it. Go no contact and heal. Do not start dating straight away as it will be a band aid over a massive cut and will not do the job and will infact make you miss the ex more. If you are not really that bothered go out and date as soon as you can but take your time. Have some fun. Only you know how you feel. Good luck.