Depressed

[bigc]

He told me but I admit I am usually in the -1 category.

 

[Brixtaan]

Know how you feel tonight

 

[Les Biehn]

Dude, I know how you feel. After 6 years of degrees and work placements I still can't seem to get a job in the industry I want. Also my bird lives 250 miles away and I work about 55 hours a week on pretty shit pay. Plus at 27 I am living at home just so I can do placements and afford to pay my debts at the same time.

It sucks man but the best thing to do is make a change. There will be other birds and try to be constructive about looking for another job, something you will enjoy more and may help you long term. It sucks at the mo but at your age that kind of stuff always seems worse, trust me in a few years time a knock back will hardly affect you.

 

[bigc]

our lives all suck to a certain extent, some of us just try and pretend otherwise.

 

[Goring Gull]

I think around uni etc time can be a difficult time in life - as far as the job goes just jack it in - i stuck at a job once i hated when i was 18 ( mangament trainee at WHsmith) because i didn't hav ethe balls to jack it in - when i did i started really wnjoying myself got a new job, nowt fancy working in a call centre at Nynex but the people were a laugh and it all went from there social life took off after it took a bit of downward turn after a load of mates went to uni etc etc. Everything clicked never really looked back - just haul yourself through it.

Belive me until you go out to work in the world to be honest for all the academic qualifications you get you lkearn fcuk all until you get in the workplace. so don't beat yourself up about the exams.

 

[Brovion]

IMPORTANT

From someone who lives with depression - I would absolutely reccomend going to the doctors ASAP. I left it for a year, and trust me, if you have depression, it will not get better by ignoring it.

The main thing is to not suffer with it alone. Tell someone.

As well, cut out the things in life that are getting you down - if it's your job, then look at getting another one. if its a girl, then another one will come along, or just enjoy being on your own - and lets face it - you're young, you dont need to have someone clingy and someone else to look after!!!

Jeez Laura I didn't know you suffered from depression. I've never met you so I only 'know' you through your messageboard postings but you've always struck me as a sussed, intelligent, outgoing young woman. And you're a cheerleader! I thought people suffering from depression had greasy hair and spots and spent the entire day slumped in a corner. Shows what I know. Fair play to you anyway for taking hold of your life,

Woody. I know your problems look bad to you so I'm not going to tell you to 'snap out of it' and count your blessings as other people (e.g. chicken run) are in a worse position than you. But as people have said you are young, you've got your whole life in front of you. You're at the stage where you can make massive 180 degree changes and take yourself down a completely different path, when you get to my age (50 next birthday) that becomes a LOT harder if not impossible. So you didn't get the right grades, well stuff university then, go and do something else instead. After all do you really want to get saddled with a massive debt and end up with a 'Me too' degree like everybody else? It's no guaranatee of a job as Les Biehn can vouch. As far as the job's concerned take a leaf out of Kev's book and tell them to shove it. EVERYBODY quits a bar/resturant job at some time in their lives. Mrs Brovian got a degree in Hotel and Catering and then spent the next 5 years walking out of every job she had, sometimes after only a matter of days. (She's now a nurse!).

As far as the girl is concerned I'm guessing that's what's upsetting you the most at the moment. I think you feel you could cope with everything if only 'X' was by your side. Well, there's no easy answer to that, you're just going to have to look elsewhere. Yes I know you don't want to and I know it hurts but it WILL get better. Trust me. Been there, done that - in fact you sound a lot like I did at 18.

 

[Lokki 7]

Woody, you are at the stage in your life that is a bit like looking in a shop window. You can see all the things you want in life, and everyone tells you that they are there waiting for you but you can't reach through the glass to get them. This is pretty depressing, I remember being in a similar position at 18. Instead of being daunted by all the options open to you, make the most of it. It is unlikely that you will ever again be in a position in your life with so little responsibility. Don't be one of those people who looks back in 20 years time and says, "If only I had done so and so when I was younger..."
As Del boy would say, the world is your lobster Rodney.

 

[Simster]

You sound a lot like I was at 18 and all I can say is that my 20s were a fantastic time of life. Things certainly have the potential to get a lot better.

But as others have said, don't live your life full of regrets, especially in situations where you have very straight forward choices. In this case, get out of that job if its making you feel bad - and if you need the money to fund uni, then obviously that means getting a different job first.

As for the bird situation, we've ALL been there mate. I remember at that age, there were always people who seemed to have no trouble pulling whereas I'd feel I could jump into a bucket of tits and come out sucking my thumb. Tell you what though, the blokes who get all the action at that age aren't necessarily the ones blessed with such good fortune in their 20s and 30s.

 

[tedebear]

Often one of the hardest things in life to do is make a change....We often roll along in our same old familiar rut, day in day out - always wanting the greener grass, telling ourselves it will get better sooner or later.....either you can make a change yourself - or someone else will make it for you....

Find someone to have a pint and a chat with - a problem shared is a problem halved....

One day hopefully you'll look back and laugh...

 

[Barrel of Fun]

I agree with GNLF.

It is important to save money for Uni, but I learned so much from my gap year abroad and I believe it made me a better person.

Give yourself something to work towards and get yourself abroad. The experiences out there waiting for you are priceless. It doesn't have to be that expensive either.

 

[Hannibal smith]

There will be difficulties, but as Reading skipper Graeme Murty said to me during an interview this summer after finally making it to the Premiership - it's not the setback that counts, it's how you react or respond to it. (by the way, he nicked that bit of philosophy from his manager, one S Coppell).

It's actually courtesy of Martin Luther King 'It is not how one performs in times of convenience and comfort but how one performs in times of adversity' It's a good bit of advice I've always remembered. Enjoy the good times, head down and work hard during the bad.

And if things are really bad put on the Greatest hits of the Smith's. That will cheer you up.

 

[JAMC]

Often one of the hardest things in life to do is make a change....We often roll along in our same old familiar rut, day in day out - always wanting the greener grass, telling ourselves it will get better sooner or later.....either you can make a change yourself - or someone else will make it for you....

Find someone to have a pint and a chat with - a problem shared is a problem halved....

One day hopefully you'll look back and laugh...

I agree!
It is hard to make a change in life when you are stuck in a familiar rut. It becomes toooo comfortable even though it is bringing you down.
I've worked in the same place for 17 years now. 3 years ago I hit rock bottom when everything got on top of me. I had to take some time off work and when I went back I felt a new person but in the background I knew that I atill wasn't happy with what I was doing for a living. So 4 months ago whilst sitting in the pub I took a look around me and at my life and decided I was going to make a change! I was toying with the idea for ages of going for my LGV licences and get a job driving but there was, what if this that and the other. I was worried that it would not work out!
I thought f*** it! I can't be going around in circles, I need to do something now otherwise I'll be here this time next year thinking the same thing.
I started the wheels rolling (no pun intended) by having my medical and then did my LGV theory \ hazard perception tests. I passed both.
I start my Class C course next week.
I feel a lot happier because I'm doing something different and it is occuppying my mind. Also I know it is a way out of the rut and I'm doing it myself instead of wishing my life away!
I'm a lot happier as well.
I talked to my friends about it and they helped me by listening and encouraging me.

 

[Jam The Man]

IMPORTANT

From someone who lives with depression - I would absolutely reccomend going to the doctors ASAP. I left it for a year, and trust me, if you have depression, it will not get better by ignoring it.

The main thing is to not suffer with it alone. Tell someone.

As well, cut out the things in life that are getting you down - if it's your job, then look at getting another one. if its a girl, then another one will come along, or just enjoy being on your own - and lets face it - you're young, you dont need to have someone clingy and someone else to look after!!!

Quality post and advice.
Not a sufferer myself, but family members who do suffer got infinitely better taking such advice as above.

 

[Tom Hark Preston Park]

I know this is probably not the kind of thing I should be posting on a football forum, but I am feeling pretty shit about my life at the moment and I'm not really sure who to turn to.

I have just started a gap year, mainly to save money for uni next year. Last year, my results were very disappointing, considering the amount of work that I put in. I am naturally not a very hardworking person and I really put myself through the mill for those exams. Sadly, I didn't pull it off, although I was always going to do a gap year anyway.

Another bummer is that a girl I have been quite crazy about for a while recently rejected me, which does hurt.

However, one of my biggest problems at the moment is my new job. Its a new pub/restaurant that has recently opened and I started there last monday. I am already starting to feel that I am surplus to requirements and I really doubt whether the job really is for me. The boss has very high standards, which is understandable, but he does give me a few rollockings for doing things wrong that I didn't even realise I was doing. I feel like I can't do anything right and the last couple of days I have simply felt absolutely shit.

Sorry to put you all through that, but I really needed to get that off my chest.

WTS.

Mate, you've got pub/restaurant experience. You're on a gap year. Every single sunny place on the planet has bars and restaurants and most are gagging for casual staff. The world's your oyster.

The ultimate suggestion I could make is make plans to head for Byron Bay, New South Wales in November. Getting there in itself is a bit of an adventure. Stop of at Singapore for a couple days. Or Bangkok. Just wander around, see what happens. Couple of days in Sydney then take the Virgin bvlue flight one hour north. Byron Bay is the hippy-dippy Oz equivalent of Brighton. Everybody's happy, the sun always shines, there's seven surfing beaches, and a constant influx of backpackers. Loads of pubs, bars, restaurants and none of the locals want to work, they're all having a grand old time being dole-blodging dope-fiends. And why November? Cos it's SCHOOLY WEEK, when literally thousands of sixth-form teenage girls jet in from all over Oz to go a bit head-mental on the partying front. And the Oz blokes are too busy being matey and drinking to even notice, so it seems. fill yer boots!

And in case you're thinking, yeah, right, then I am here to assure you that the Australian Dream can and does come true. Me son's mate, lad from Bognor on a gap-year like yourself, happened upon a kitchen job in Cheeky Monkey's, the biggest party central venue in Byron. One of his duties was - wait for it - to chuck the ice water over the contestants in the weekly Wet t-Shirt contast.

Go for it! What's the worst that can happen - apart from having to come back to this dull and dreary little island.

 

[Les Biehn]

If I'm feeling down I just go and get wankered. I always feel better.