Why can some people be so cruel?

[Durlston]

Yesterday i went up to London to watch Spurs v Wolves and then on to a nightclub to celebrate a mate's birthday.

I had such a great time-apart from having to watch the match. Anyway there was 4 of us in the club and i thought we were all getting on really well.One of the blokes i hadn't met before.I'm always shy meeting new people generally.I met this really nice girl in there and was chatting to her for ages but when i'd come back from the toilets my 'friend' had been talking to her and warned her off me about my fragile mental health in the past that i'd confided in to my mate(who's birthday it was).She made her excuses when i got back and vanished.It totally destroyed my evening.There was absolutely no need to do that.Throughout he wasn't enjoying being there and was just out to make trouble.I wish i'd confronted him now and questioned his motives for it but didn't want to spoil the night for the others.

The journey home just made me realise how cruel some people are in this world.I felt so alone and fought back the tears.I got home at 5.30am and tried to sleep but just feel so upset.I had my heart ripped out and don't feel i can trust anyone at all.Some people on here i know will think it's pathetic that a 31-year old man can get so upset.

Why can't people just be nice to each other? Life is far too short.I feel so low about it all

 

[dougdeep]

Sounds like he deserved a knee in the nuts.

 

[sir albion]

Sadly there is far to many people who can't pull birds so they look to pull by knocking others down to get in their knickersDon't take it to hard as i can assure you its mostly about certain men who need an excuse to get close to a bird

 

[Durlston]

Really wish i'd done that now but i don't believe violence is the answer.I would have been the one guilty of ruining the whole evening.He would of loved that.

To some people having a mental illness is like having HIV.

 

[User removed 4]

Yesterday i went up to London to watch Spurs v Wolves and then on to a nightclub to celebrate a mate's birthday.

I had such a great time-apart from having to watch the match. Anyway there was 4 of us in the club and i thought we were all getting on really well.One of the blokes i hadn't met before.I'm always shy meeting new people generally.I met this really nice girl in there and was chatting to her for ages but when i'd come back from the toilets my 'friend' had been talking to her and warned her off me about my fragile mental health in the past that i'd confided in to my mate(who's birthday it was).She made her excuses when i got back and vanished.It totally destroyed my evening.There was absolutely no need to do that.Throughout he wasn't enjoying being there and was just out to make trouble.I wish i'd confronted him now and questioned his motives for it but didn't want to spoil the night for the others.

The journey home just made me realise how cruel some people are in this world.I felt so alone and fought back the tears.I got home at 5.30am and tried to sleep but just feel so upset.I had my heart ripped out and don't feel i can trust anyone at all.Some people on here i know will think it's pathetic that a 31-year old man can get so upset.

Why can't people just be nice to each other? Life is far too short.I feel so low about it all

its probably not a lot of consolation at the moment mate , but if that's all it takes to make her leave , I doubt she was worth knowing anyway, and you proved yourself the better bloke by not raring up at him and ruining your mate's birthday.

 

[Billy the Fish]

Sounds like the bloke is a tosser who was trying to get all alpha male on you, he probably didn't like it that you were getting attention from a bird instead of him. Some people are just c**ts like that.
If he wasn't enjoying you being there you should've taken it the other way and make it your business to have a good time, but that is a confidence thing and it sounds like you are running a bit low. He probably guessed you weren't the type to cause a scene and do anything, that's what bullying types do.
At the end of the day it's just a random bird in a club, nothing to get too upset about, there are plenty of those if that's what you want.

 

[Durlston]

Sounds like the bloke is a tosser who was trying to get all alpha male on you, he probably didn't like it that you were getting attention from a bird instead of him. Some people are just c**ts like that.
If he wasn't enjoying you being there you should've taken it the other way and make it your business to have a good time, but that is a confidence thing and it sounds like you are running a bit low. He probably guessed you weren't the type to cause a scene and do anything, that's what bullying types do.
At the end of the day it's just a random bird in a club, nothing to get too upset about, there are plenty of those if that's what you want.

I know mate.Being short on confidence has made me vulnerable.I'm emotionally strung-out at the moment.Girls don't want to get involved with blokes that have mental issues.The last few months i'd been feeling so much better.I just wish i was a stronger person.

 

[Meade's Ball]

I know mate.Being short on confidence has made me vulnerable.I'm emotionally strung-out at the moment.Girls don't want to get involved with blokes that have mental issues.The last few months i'd been feeling so much better.I just wish i was a stronger person.

Although you probably don't want to be with a woman who likes mental issues, there are chances with females nonetheless. Meeting women in clubs or pubs and having that announced as your main feature may put them off, but that doesn't mean you're without a chance.
I hardly have flocks of women throwing themselves at me, but some severe difficulties of the past few years seem to have made me more attractive than i was when i was "normal" and just a bit nervous.
Just need to get to know people slowly and not think they dislike you because your insides are a tad jumbled.

 

[Insel affe]

Yesterday i went up to London to watch Spurs v Wolves and then on to a nightclub to celebrate a mate's birthday.

I had such a great time-apart from having to watch the match. Anyway there was 4 of us in the club and i thought we were all getting on really well.One of the blokes i hadn't met before.I'm always shy meeting new people generally.I met this really nice girl in there and was chatting to her for ages but when i'd come back from the toilets my 'friend' had been talking to her and warned her off me about my fragile mental health in the past that i'd confided in to my mate(who's birthday it was).She made her excuses when i got back and vanished.It totally destroyed my evening.There was absolutely no need to do that.Throughout he wasn't enjoying being there and was just out to make trouble.I wish i'd confronted him now and questioned his motives for it but didn't want to spoil the night for the others.

The journey home just made me realise how cruel some people are in this world.I felt so alone and fought back the tears.I got home at 5.30am and tried to sleep but just feel so upset.I had my heart ripped out and don't feel i can trust anyone at all.Some people on here i know will think it's pathetic that a 31-year old man can get so upset.

Why can't people just be nice to each other? Life is far too short.I feel so low about it all

He is no friend fella, just another person who you dont need to send a christmas card too.

Anyway if you met her in a nightclub in London, he may have done you a favour...............Imigine the money you would save not traveling up to london,not to mention a crimbo present.

have a good one fella and dont worry about feckers like him,they aint worth the worry

 

[Gully]

Clearly that bloke is a cockjugglingthunder....twat!

He probably did that because of some personal insecurity that makes him jealous of anyone who seems to be either enjoying themselves or doing better in life than he is...regardless of their personal situation. Clearly the young lady in question was happy to be in your company and I am guessing that mental health, of either party, would have come up at some stage. If any woman is deserving of your company then she will see you as you are now and accept you for the person you have become, if someone isn't totally accepting and understanding of you then they are not worthy!

 

[vegster]

I know its hard now but your time will come ! This time of the year can be horrid because everyone else seems to be having such a good time with their partners and when you are single you feel very down.

Don't try too hard, be yourself and build your confidence slowly and Miss Right WILL eventually arrive. Just don't do a Spielberg

 

[coventrygull]

If it was done to me I would have thought it was quite funny. Think people are way to sensitive. Get a grip

 

[Insel affe]

If it was done to me I would have thought it was quite funny. Think people are way to sensitive. Get a grip

here speaketh NSC resident apathetic psychologist

 

[Billy the Fish]

Really wish i'd done that now but i don't believe violence is the answer.I would have been the one guilty of ruining the whole evening.He would of loved that.

Not if he had to go to work on Monday with a black eye he wouldn't

 

[vegster]

If it was done to me I would have thought it was quite funny. Think people are way to sensitive. Get a grip

ever wonder why you are in Coventry ?

 

[Gully]

If it was done to me I would have thought it was quite funny. Think people are way to sensitive. Get a grip

...in a previous life I think you might have been a WWI general!

 

[Insel affe]

...in a previous life I think you might have been a WWI general!

For the Hermans

 

[coventrygull]

ever wonder why you are in Coventry ?

No mate I chose to move here

It wasn't as if he was going to marry the girl was it.

 

[coventrygull]

...in a previous life I think you might have been a WWI general!

Sometimes you have to tell it like it is. What woman likes a shy wimp anyway

 

[Gully]

Sometimes you have to tell it like it is. What woman likes a shy wimp anyway

I wouldn't describe anyone I have met who has had mental health issues, and faced up to them, in those terms...that is somewhat dismissive and completely wrong.