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The wife and i have been discussing at length the possibility of becoming foster parents Anyone have any experience of fostering? good or bad would be greatly appreciated.
The wife and i have been discussing at length the possibility of becoming foster parents Anyone have any experience of fostering? good or bad would be greatly appreciated.
Never Fostered myself but before retiring last year had worked with Foster Carers and Children in Care for over 30yrs. Why don't you contact the Fostering association and have a chat, they are brilliant and will give sound advice. Alternatively post me a private message and I would be only to pleased to have a natter. The only thing I would say is that the majority of children coming through the Care system exhibit challenging behaviour as many have suffered years of abuse/neglect and will need massive time and commitment from their carers, but the rewards can be tremendous .
I did fostering many years ago.
I'd suggest starting off doing respite to see how it impacts on your relationships and if its for you longer term. There's quite a commitment to the kids and the last thing they need is being moved on again.
Having said that, I eventually stopped because I couldn't cope with the more challenging behaviour and didn't get the support I needed from social services when I asked for it. It was difficult to ask them to take away a young vulnerable girl, but bumped into her a while after with her new carer and was pleased that she was still happy to see me.
If you get good social workers, it's very rewarding, but many of them are overloaded. if you are good, they'll leave you alone as they'll have more challenging issues elsewhere.
If you want to ask any specific questions, feel free to PM me.
This is one of the warmest gifts that you can make.........giving a child a home and I give you all my best.
never fostered myself but before retiring last year had worked with foster carers and children in care for over 30yrs. Why don't you contact the fostering association and have a chat, they are brilliant and will give sound advice. Alternatively post me a private message and i would be only to pleased to have a natter. The only thing i would say is that the majority of children coming through the care system exhibit challenging behaviour as many have suffered years of abuse/neglect and will need massive time and commitment from their carers, but the rewards can be tremendous .