What would you do?

[Digweeds Trousers]

Just got back from the airport seeing the other half to Oz for two years.

she then said last night in tears that she could not go for two years and would be coming home in a year.

I have been given a spanking pay rise and more responsibility at work so I will not leave now.

So the prospect is life with no girlfriend but someone 15,000 miles away who has told me that they love me more than anyone they have ever known and she is desperate for things to work out when she comes back.

Different to how she seemed two weeks ago when she broke the news but she has said that she has realised how close we are.

do I spend the next 12 months behaving like a single man but not getting involved or do i act as if I have a girlfirend and keep faithful.

I worry that karma can shit on you occasionally and if she returns after a year when I have been shagging like a 21 year old (assuming I get the chance!!) will it stuff up my chances with her.

what do the sages of NSC think??

 

[Seagullible]

been in the same situation myself though she was gone for 18 months and returned just before xmas. When she left she went as a friend and I still have strong feelings and know she has feelings too but we're not together at the mo. it's a very tough thing to be away so long as people do change so we're getting to know each other again.
In the end only you know what the best things to do is and as long as the two of you keep talking there's no reason why it won't work out.
Good luck

 

[Brighton Boy]

I feel sorry for your predicament.........

But if she has gone for a year then no man deserves to wait that long.

Spend 8 months shagging like a 21 year old and the last four months covering all tracks so everything safe and sound on her arrival.

 

[tinx]

The question you need to ask yourself is:-

Is she gonna be a good girl in Oz or go off shagging Aussie surfer dudes at the first opportinity. IF she is then fair game on you doing the same, If you honestly think she won't then you perhaps should be a good boy too.

 

[NMH]

She'll be feeling really guilty when she's rogering like a jackrabbit over there, all the while telling herself you have an 'open relationship' but telling you how faithful she is and "are you being good?"

Whatever was said as she left, she'll be blase and shrug off as soon as she lands at the other end.

If the love was so strong and brilliant, she wouldn't be leaving to go 12,00 miles away from you, be sure of that mate.

She was nice while she was around, but that's it - NEXT!

That's what I think.

 

[Lokki 7]

Different to how she seemed two weeks ago when she broke the news

See how she feels in a couple weeks when the excitement of being in Oz has kicked in. If she still feels the same give it a try, you've nothing to lose.
I had a long distance relationship with my missus for a year at the start. It was tough but it can work out.

 

[Simster]

Shag around fella - it's only sex. I really don't think she can expect you to be celibate when she's the one who decided to up sticks and leave for so long. You can then both decide whether it's worth picking up where you left off when (if) she returns...

 

[Beach Hut]

It is a long time for both parties to remain faithful.

Not sure I could stand the test of time, I suppose it really depends how much you love her but I suspect you will always have a doubt as you are not near her.

 

[Ding Dong !]

Ask yourself this.......Are you both likely to be able to go without sex for a year !

 

[cheeseroll]

I feel sorry for your predicament.........

But if she has gone for a year then no man deserves to wait that long.

Spend 8 months shagging like a 21 year old and the last four months covering all tracks so everything safe and sound on her arrival.

It worked for me although probably 4 months is a little too safe.

Are you living together now ? if so be wary of girlie things anyone might leave behind that you may think were hers.

 

[Lokki 7]

Ask yourself this.......Are you both likely to be able to go without sex for a year !

He's not planning on getting married is he?

 

[Brighton Boy]

I wouldnt want a year with no sex and only my right hand for comfort.


Get back in the singles game.

She deserves it for buggering of for a year.

 

[eastlondonseagull]

How do you feel about her? If you really do love her, and she loves you, then a year's not that long and you can always boost the ego by flirting a bit but not crossing that line. And wanking a lot. But it all depends on how you both feel for each other.

Be the boyfriend, and stay faithful. If you find it too hard and you end up playing around, then that answers your question for you.

Good luck mate.

 

[Brighton Boy]

How do you feel about her? If you really do love her, and she loves you, then a year's not that long and you can always boost the ego by flirting a bit but not crossing that line. And wanking a lot. But it all depends on how you both feel for each other.

Be the boyfriend, and stay faithful. If you find it too hard and you end up playing around, then that answers your question for you.

Good luck mate.

 

[Norman Baker suck my lozenge]

Just got back from the airport seeing the other half to Oz for two years.

she then said last night in tears that she could not go for two years and would be coming home in a year.

I have been given a spanking pay rise and more responsibility at work so I will not leave now.

So the prospect is life with no girlfriend but someone 15,000 miles away who has told me that they love me more than anyone they have ever known and she is desperate for things to work out when she comes back.

Different to how she seemed two weeks ago when she broke the news but she has said that she has realised how close we are.

do I spend the next 12 months behaving like a single man but not getting involved or do i act as if I have a girlfirend and keep faithful.

I worry that karma can shit on you occasionally and if she returns after a year when I have been shagging like a 21 year old (assuming I get the chance!!) will it stuff up my chances with her.

what do the sages of NSC think??

She'll be shagging around,so You might aswell get amongst it

 

[eastlondonseagull]

I'm just a good old fashioned idiot Never cheated on anyone in 32 years. But have been damn frustrated from time to time, got to admit

 

[Barnet Seagull]

My theory on this has always been the same. Act like you're single, i.e. put yourself in the frame for other women/romance. Don't hide away or you may regret it. Then it's all up to your mentality.

You don't have to do anything that you don't want to. If you fancy sex, have it. If you miss the ex-missus and think you should abstain do it.

No harm in meeting new people and if in 18 months it's meant to be, that's very cool.

 

[Brighton Boy]

No harm in meeting new people and if in 18 months it's meant to be, that's very cool.

But in 18 months if its not to be then that is not cool......


At All

 

[sydney]

a year is too long to be celebate.......my advice would be don't shit on your own doorstep if you plan on waiting for her and having a life in the meantime...
however i would think that most adults would excpect that in the course of 12 months they are going to get a ride on at least half a dozen occaisions, more if they are travelling. you can take comfort in the fact that sydney is really a full on gay town so the chances of her scoring there are slim unless she stoops to shagging other backpackers...........the question is how do you feel about hanging up yer todger for a year, especially if she comes back with a change of heart and a new bloke.......probably not helping much am i ? sorry

 

[Brighton Boy]

a year is too long to be celebate.......my advice would be don't shit on your own doorstep if you plan on waiting for her and having a life in the meantime...
however i would think that most adults would excpect that in the course of 12 months they are going to get a ride on at least half a dozen occaisions, more if they are travelling. you can take comfort in the fact that sydney is really a full on gay town so the chances of her scoring there are slim unless she stoops to shagging other backpackers...........the question is how do you feel about hanging up yer todger for a year, especially if she comes back with a change of heart and a new bloke.......probably not helping much am i ? sorry

OOOOPS Sydneys on the lookout