[Help] Terminal cancer diagnosis - local help

[BrightonCottager]

I've scanned Thread titles and couldn't find one so apologies if this has been asked before.

I found out today that someone I know has just had a shock terminal cancer diagnosis. Are there local organisations that can offer help to him and his family? I know of Macmillan but there might be others. Thanks NSC.

 

[WATFORD zero]

I know Macmillan are very good and there is also Marie Curie. I think that if he contacts them, they will help and can refer more specialist groups (if he has young children, dependants etc ).

 

[atomised]

following as suspect I'm about to receive similar news about someone close

 

[Greg Bobkin]

Going through this with MIL at the moment Macmillan seem to be the best, but possibly also local hospices. The NHS nurses and contacts she has made (it's been a very long and complicated 'journey' for her, sadly) have been brilliant with her too.

 

[One Teddy Maybank]

I've scanned Thread titles and couldn't find one so apologies if this has been asked before.

I found out today that someone I know has just had a shock terminal cancer diagnosis. Are there local organisations that can offer help to him and his family? I know of Macmillan but there might be others. Thanks NSC.

Sorry to hear that.

If they are under palliative care, their nursing team should help with advice and also the Clinical Nurse Specialist, for the tumour specialty they are under.

If a Brighton patient, they have the Horizon Centre opposite the entrance to the oncology centre, so worth a visit.

 

[Zeberdi]

Sorry to hear your news @BrightonCottager

The Martlets would be a good resource and can offer hospice care if needed but they support people (and families ) in their own home too - they were very helpful when my Dad had terminal cancer - the MacMillan community nurse team work out from there too.

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[TugWilson]

My sister can`t speak highly enough of the MacMillan nurses who looked after my Brother in law , incredible people .

 

[sheebo]

So sorry to hear this @BrightonCottager - you seem a top bloke & I have no doubt your friend is a top person too. Only thing I can say is that the St Wilfred’s Hospice staff are absolute hero’s in my experience. Same as all the nurses I encounter in hospital with our baby in intensive care. Thoughts with you and your friend x

 

[Joey Jo Jo Jr. Shabadoo]

Where are they based? Their local hospice will be able to help. If they are in Brighton then it will probably be Martlets Hospice.

The hospice uk website will be able to guide them in the right direction and is full of great resources.

 

[BrightonCottager]

Thank you so much for your suggestions so far. I don't know why I didn't think of the Martletts especially as I donate to them every month. Actually I do know why - I'm shocked . He's at home with his family in Brighton at the moment, being stoical. It certainly puts footballers' feigned injuries into perspective.

 

[cjd]

Have the family asked for your help..??

 

[BrightonCottager]

Have the family asked for your help..??

Good question. No. I have offered practical help, not advice. You think I shouldn't?

 

[Weststander]

No harm finding out about resources, out of kindness, imho.

 

[cjd]

You have offered practical help...? Are you experienced in these matters then ..?...and if so...why are you asking for advice on a football forum...?

I'm not criticising you, but most of us on here have had a close friend or...much more importantly, a close relative who has had a terminal disease. The difference between "friend" and "family" is huge.

From my little experience of my father, then my mother, and previously of close members of my family, who had terminal illnesses, information given by the various organisations involved in palliative care was hugely more welcomed than someone gathering, often a mixture of sometimes inaccurate information from a football forum at a distressing time. very upsetting.

 

[Triggaaar]

To answer the question, which type of cancer do they have?

 

[Zeberdi]

You have offered practical help...? Are you experienced in these matters then ..?...and if so...why are you asking for advice on a football forum...?

I'm not criticising you, but most of us on here have had a close friend or...much more importantly, a close relative who has had a terminal disease. The difference between "friend" and "family" is huge.

From my little experience of my father, then my mother, and previously of close members of my family, who had terminal illnesses, information given by the various organisations involved in palliative care was hugely more welcomed than someone gathering, often a mixture of sometimes inaccurate information from a football forum at a distressing time. very upsetting.

Seems a bit of a harsh response imo tbh - no one is offering specialist medical or oncological advice just saying what help is available based on their own experiences. It’s just signposting.

Other people’s experience can be very helpful - doesn’t matter if it’s for friend or family. For some people ‘friends’ are ‘family’. I lost my best friend of 20 years this week - I’m feeling it far more than when I lost an Aunty recently too so it’s not right to say it’s much less important

From what I can tell, NSC isn’t just about football - it’s a community of people sharing a love of football but all with real lives and real issues they might at times want to talk about - I think NSCers are able to let people do that in a non- judgemental way.

 

[Daddies_Sauce]

information given by the various organisations involved in palliative care was hugely more welcomed than someone gathering, often a mixture of sometimes inaccurate information from a football forum at a distressing time. very upsetting

Firstly to the OP - Really sorry to hear that news.

To the quote: Because somebody has a terminal cancer diagnosis does not necessarily mean that they are palliative at this time.

 

[Seagull58]

I lost my mother and two girlfriends to cancer. Macmillan nurses were wonderful in all cases.

 

[zefarelly]

Lost my Dad very quickly, Worthing Hospital did what they could then St Barnabus for the last 4 days, they were great.

horrible business, and it still hurts nearly 20 years later. . . .I'll be very lucky if I never see that place again.

 

[Justice]

I've scanned Thread titles and couldn't find one so apologies if this has been asked before.

I found out today that someone I know has just had a shock terminal cancer diagnosis. Are there local organisations that can offer help to him and his family? I know of Macmillan but there might be others. Thanks NSC.

Was there a MacMillan nurse on hand when they were told of their diagnosis? They normally are.