Depressed

[Simon Morgan]

I know this is probably not the kind of thing I should be posting on a football forum, but I am feeling pretty shit about my life at the moment and I'm not really sure who to turn to.

I have just started a gap year, mainly to save money for uni next year. Last year, my results were very disappointing, considering the amount of work that I put in. I am naturally not a very hardworking person and I really put myself through the mill for those exams. Sadly, I didn't pull it off, although I was always going to do a gap year anyway.

Another bummer is that a girl I have been quite crazy about for a while recently rejected me, which does hurt.

However, one of my biggest problems at the moment is my new job. Its a new pub/restaurant that has recently opened and I started there last monday. I am already starting to feel that I am surplus to requirements and I really doubt whether the job really is for me. The boss has very high standards, which is understandable, but he does give me a few rollockings for doing things wrong that I didn't even realise I was doing. I feel like I can't do anything right and the last couple of days I have simply felt absolutely shit.

Sorry to put you all through that, but I really needed to get that off my chest.

WTS.

 

[dunno]

Chin up mate - you'll be fine

 

[Simon Morgan]

Chin up mate - you'll be fine

Thanks a lot. I hope it can't get any worse than this, I just hope I get a break that makes me a bit happier.

 

[Withdean Wanderer]

At least you know where you stand with the girl - better than false hope

And regarding the job - if it's that bad, do a Kev (although probably best not to tell NSC about it)

 

[Chicken Run]

I know this is probably not the kind of thing I should be posting on a football forum, but I am feeling pretty shit about my life at the moment and I'm not really sure who to turn to.

I have just started a gap year, mainly to save money for uni next year. Last year, my results were very disappointing, considering the amount of work that I put in. I am naturally not a very hardworking person and I really put myself through the mill for those exams. Sadly, I didn't pull it off, although I was always going to do a gap year anyway.

Another bummer is that a girl I have been quite crazy about for a while recently rejected me, which does hurt.

However, one of my biggest problems at the moment is my new job. Its a new pub/restaurant that has recently opened and I started there last monday. I am already starting to feel that I am surplus to requirements and I really doubt whether the job really is for me. The boss has very high standards, which is understandable, but he does give me a few rollockings for doing things wrong that I didn't even realise I was doing. I feel like I can't do anything right and the last couple of days I have simply felt absolutely shit.

Sorry to put you all through that, but I really needed to get that off my chest.

WTS.

As he said chin up up! My wife of 10 years and partner of 14 in total asked me for a divorce last week i've got three v.confused children now plus aditional outgoings to consider, I'd rather have your worries matey, ironicaly mr brightside is on the radio at the mo

 

[Simon Morgan]

Re: Re: Depressed

As he said chin up up! My wife of 10 years and partner of 14 in total asked me for a divorce last week i've got three v.confused children now plus aditional outgoings to consider, I'd rather have your worries matey, ironicaly mr brightside is on the radio at the mo

I'm sorry to hear that. Its just that going from the education system into working life has been a bit of a kick for me. Hope it all works out for you.

 

[Beach Hut]

Try thinking of something positive and focus on that and make it happen.

 

[Chicken Run]

No worries I'm not looking for sypathy, my outlook on life is I have two choices sit and feel sorry for myself (it then gets worse) or deal with it (it gets better) This aplies to every issue life throws at you IMHO

 

[Tooting Gull]

Jesus, I thought I has having a bad trot at work...

The way I look at these things is that yes, life is shite on occasions.

I'm sure this is the kind of thing your gran would tell you, and sorry for that, but you are still very young, and there's a hell of a lot living ahead.

There will be difficulties, but as Reading skipper Graeme Murty said to me during an interview this summer after finally making it to the Premiership - it's not the setback that counts, it's how you react or respond to it. (by the way, he nicked that bit of philosophy from his manager, one S Coppell).

People will say 'you can be anything you want to be'. Sometimes that's not true. But if there's something you do want to be, give it everything before you look elsewhere.

 

[The Large One]

Look for a new girlfriend.
Look for a new job.
Look for a new career path.
Find a different outlook.

Chances are they'll come and find you when you least expect it. Sorry your plans sound as though they have turned to mush, but one thing is certain, you won't find any new plans with your chin slunk to your chest. The only person who can help you is you. Make it happen.

And spend less time on here.

 

[Garry Nelson's Left Foot]

f*** working in a restaurant. Check out this website: http://www.uk.emb-japan.go.jp/en/visa/work_hol.html and get yourself a working holiday visa for Japan. Come on over for a year and you'll have an awesome time. When you go back to England and start uni you'll shit on all the other gimps in your classes and the girls will LOVE you for having spent a year in Asia.

You know it makes sense.

Alternatively get a WHV for Korea or Australia or New Zealand or Canada...

 

[coventrygull]

Go down sydney street and get some legal happy pills

Otherwise read some OSHO

 

[Albion Rob]

If I were you, I'd definitely pack the job in and do something else.

Not worth having a job you hate during your gap year.

 

[Simon Morgan]

Thanks everyone. I'm just a bit apprehensive about quitting the job because I feel it would be a bit cowardly and wouldn't look great. However, in a weeks time, if I still feel like this, I don't think I have a choice.

 

[The Large One]

Thanks everyone. I'm just a bit apprehensive about quitting the job because I feel it would be a bit cowardly and wouldn't look great. However, in a weeks time, if I still feel like this, I don't think I have a choice.

Life's too short to work for someone who comes across as a total wanker. There's nothing shameful in quitting what you don't like doing. Of course, you could just be thin-skinned, in which case I'd say buck your f***ing ideas up stop grizzling and go out and shag something.*

*Ask them first, though.

 

[Gully]

Better to come across people who are total choppers early in your working life, my only advice would be to learn from it, work out what their management style is and why you dislike it then make sure that you don't repeat the mistakes they make. It is clever to learn from your own mistakes but far smarter to learn from those made by others.

 

[bigc]

I guess going into town while I had some cheesy chips doesnt do the trick



c'mon...we have London tomorrow.

 

[PILTDOWN MAN]

From what you say, take note of Labour "the only way is up", shit that didn't work either.

 

[Billy the Fish]

Don't worry, life is all about peaks and troughs. For every bad time there will be a good time. Leaving education is always an uncirtain time, but if you worry too much about what your going to do with your life, you'll just take yourself under.
Enjoy the simple pleasures in life, take pride in what you do no matter how menial it is and accept that not everything will go your way.

 

[ben andrews' girlfriend]

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From someone who lives with depression - I would absolutely reccomend going to the doctors ASAP. I left it for a year, and trust me, if you have depression, it will not get better by ignoring it.

The main thing is to not suffer with it alone. Tell someone.

As well, cut out the things in life that are getting you down - if it's your job, then look at getting another one. if its a girl, then another one will come along, or just enjoy being on your own - and lets face it - you're young, you dont need to have someone clingy and someone else to look after!!!