[Football] The Gay Footballer

Hillian1 said:

Mod Edit: No need for that kind of language.

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Swansman said:

Lack of gay footballers is never ever going to be one of the major reasons why people feel repressed and psychologically unhappy. However, the identity psychosis shit where in example your sexuality is the same as your "identity" and your whole existence is intertwined with your sexual preferences is definitely harmful. Its the same for classes in society or political viewpoints or whatever really - you put yourself in a box you simply cant thrive inside as every human is far more multifaceted than that.

If you go all in and become this "gay symbol", you and everyone else is always going to expect - almost demand - that you be some kind of Rainbow God 24/7 and you put yourself under giant pressure, just like the business man who cant go barefoot with a sweaty t-shirt or the "bad boy" getting weird looks when he rejects a beer or a joint. One of the major reasons people are feeling shit in our day and age is not the lack of representation, but the pressure to always represent.

If everyone stopped believing that they were alone in the world and kill that urge to put a spotlight in your face and saying "I am different", then different would be normal rather than different. The footballer in question would do himself and other gay people a favour if he just stopped hiding it without making some kind of buzz about it. Its how you make things considered normal.

As for "I assume you're Swansea. Give me one good reason to tolerate you given you're a guest here and the only thing that's been up your ass is your own head" its really up to you - I dont know you, I dont know how tolerant you are of opinions and thoughts you dislike, so whether you choose to tolerate me or not is really in your hands. I dont know what is a "good reason" to you.

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BensGrandad said:

Is anybody interested and how does it affect any of us.

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Swansman said:

Lack of gay footballers is never ever going to be one of the major reasons why people feel repressed and psychologically unhappy. However, the identity psychosis shit where in example your sexuality is the same as your "identity" and your whole existence is intertwined with your sexual preferences is definitely harmful. Its the same for classes in society or political viewpoints or whatever really - you put yourself in a box you simply cant thrive inside as every human is far more multifaceted than that.

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If you go all in and become this "gay symbol", you and everyone else is always going to expect - almost demand - that you be some kind of Rainbow God 24/7 and you put yourself under giant pressure, just like the business man who cant go barefoot with a sweaty t-shirt or the "bad boy" getting weird looks when he rejects a beer or a joint. One of the major reasons people are feeling shit in our day and age is not the lack of representation, but the pressure to always represent.

If everyone stopped believing that they were alone in the world and kill that urge to put a spotlight in your face and saying "I am different", then different would be normal rather than different. The footballer in question would do himself and other gay people a favour if he just stopped hiding it without making some kind of buzz about it. Its how you make things considered normal.

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As for "I assume you're Swansea. Give me one good reason to tolerate you given you're a guest here and the only thing that's been up your ass is your own head" its really up to you - I dont know you, I dont know how tolerant you are of opinions and thoughts you dislike, so whether you choose to tolerate me or not is really in your hands. I dont know what is a "good reason" to you.

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Guinness Boy said:

Wow, I didn't realise we had a professor of Psychology on the board and one who's helped so many LGBTQ people with such direct advice. You should set up a tent at Pride. You'd defintaly be popular.

Or, maybe, you don't know that any more than I do. But the point is, with NO gay footballers at all, the professional men's game is a last bastion of homophobia.



Well, again, that would be nice. People "just being" is the ideal. But clearly there are some footballers who are not "just being". NATSAL reckons around 1.1% of us identify as gay. That means f you just take a first team squad of 25 in each of the 92 pro clubs that neatly comes out as 25 players who should be "out" just in that cohort. Never mind since Fashanu (who killed himself, let's remember). That's not touching youth players, semi-pros, County League etc. How many players who just play for fun are suppressing their real selves because "footballers aren't like that"?

That said, this does seem to be a bit of a publicity stunt but i would suggest those responsible think it's necessary.



Because away fans coming on here and trolling about homosexuality is incredibly boring. Let's just see what pans out.

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The_Viper said:

Am I the only one who thinks this is going to be a wind up?

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dazzer6666 said:

Fashanu’s niece was being interviewed on the radio a bit earlier. Even she isn’t 100% sure it’s genuine (although she has been exchanging messages with the tweeter). She said, however, that there is another player (can’t recall the twitter handle but she confirmed it’s a Norwich player) that is planning to come out this week too.

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Guinness Boy said:

Because away fans coming on here and trolling about homosexuality is incredibly boring. Let's just see what pans out.

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Swansman said:

Out of curiosity, why would they do that? Is Brighton known for its gay community or something?

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Greg Bobkin said:

I bet Jim Shite was wetting himself with that exclusive (I'd left the car by then).

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Swansman said:

Out of curiosity, why would they do that? Is Brighton known for its gay community or something?

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Guinness Boy said:

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dazzer6666 said:

Fashanu’s niece was being interviewed on the radio a bit earlier. Even she isn’t 100% sure it’s genuine (although she has been exchanging messages with the tweeter). She said, however, that there is another player (can’t recall the twitter handle but she confirmed it’s a Norwich player) that is planning to come out this week too.

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Swansman said:

I read too much into it, thinking it was a common issue but I realise now it was only pointed towards me.

I do think Internet is Dada 2.0, but troll, wouldnt go that far..

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Swansman said:

I read too much into it, thinking it was a common issue but I realise now it was only pointed towards me.

I do think Internet is Dada 2.0, but troll, wouldnt go that far..

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Swansman said:

I read too much into it, thinking it was a common issue but I realise now it was only pointed towards me.

I do think Internet is Dada 2.0, but troll, wouldnt go that far..

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Perry's Tracksuit Bottoms said:

This might help you

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_community_of_Brighton_and_Hove

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