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pottert

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Aug 12, 2009
3,020
Peacehaven
What is the going rate for childcare by members of your family.

The reason I ask is that my sister in law ( the wife's sister) wants us to Pay her £800 per month to look after our 2yr old 3 days a week no your not seeing things 3 days a week

She is a full time mum so she will not be losing any money.

Is it me or is that just discusting.

Thoughts
 


LadySeagull

Well-known member
Jan 21, 2011
1,237
Portslade
What is the going rate for childcare by members of your family.

The reason I ask is that my sister in law ( the wife's sister) wants us to Pay her £800 per month to look after our 2yr old 3 days a week no your not seeing things 3 days a week

She is a full time mum so she will not be losing any money.

Is it me or is that just discusting.

Thoughts

If she's taking your child to her home each day I think she may have to register as a childminder and be prepared to look after another child who isn't hers, and to have inspections. I assume you are not talking about cash in hand/grey market? £800 net is pretty steep but you could then claim tax credits, if you're eligible, towards the cost...which you can't if she doesn't register as a childminder.

Cheaper if she comes to your house which isn't subject to any strict regulation AFAIK, when it's a family member. £800 seems a lot to me under these circumstances but is she going to have the child from 8am till 6pm or so, which is a long working/childminding day.

Things have changed...my Mum used to help us out, half days after nursery, for nothing except her travel expenses & treats/lunch etc.


P.S. you mean 'disgusting'
 


Beach Hut

Brighton Bhuna Boy
Jul 5, 2003
71,903
Living In a Box
Try waiting till they get older, trust me £800 is a steal
 


S

smileyweb

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She's taking the proverbial, as you can put a 2-yr old into nursery 5 days a week for LESS than that - and that's with multiple qualified staff, meals, etc. and socialising with other children...
 






Bones

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Oct 25, 2006
432
Portslade
What is the going rate for childcare by members of your family.

The reason I ask is that my sister in law ( the wife's sister) wants us to Pay her £800 per month to look after our 2yr old 3 days a week no your not seeing things 3 days a week

She is a full time mum so she will not be losing any money.

Is it me or is that just discusting.

Thoughts
Think we pay £50 a day with meals included. This is in Hove.

£800 a month seems a bit extreme.
 




pottert

New member
Aug 12, 2009
3,020
Peacehaven
If she's taking your child to her home each day I think she may have to register as a childminder and be prepared to look after another child who isn't hers, and to have inspections. I assume you are not talking about cash in hand/grey market? £800 net is pretty steep but you could then claim tax credits, if you're eligible, towards the cost...which you can't if she doesn't register as a childminder.

Cheaper if she comes to your house which isn't subject to any strict regulation AFAIK, when it's a family member. £800 seems a lot to me under these circumstances but is she going to have the child from 8am till 6pm or so, which is a long working/childminding day.

Things have changed...my Mum used to help us out, half days after nursery, for nothing except her travel expenses & treats/lunch etc.


P.S. you mean 'disgusting'

She is dropped off at her aunties house at 7.45 by her mum who then drives 1 of aunties kids to school (free of charge)
& is picked up by her dad (me) at about 5.15.

I agree It is a long day & I'm not saying we shouldn't pay her but £65 a day cash in hand to look after your niece who you keep rattling about how much you love seems a bit of a piss take.

She dosent work so it's not as if she is losing money by looking after her.
 




LadySeagull

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Jan 21, 2011
1,237
Portslade
So would you qualify for childcare vouchers or extra tax credits if you were paying for 'proper' childcare? If so then it would be a no-brainer for me - I would use a (cheaper) nursery and get the extra tax credits as well! And when she turns 3 she will already be in a place where you can claim your free early years hours anyway:

https://www.gov.uk/free-early-education

Why on earth pay more than you need to for less interaction with other kids?
 


S

smileyweb

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Please tell me where this nursery is!

See post #5 - this was the first example I looked at after searching for 'nurseries in peacehaven', and there are plenty more.

You should be looking at £40-50 a day max, across Sussex.
 


pottert

New member
Aug 12, 2009
3,020
Peacehaven
So would you qualify for childcare vouchers or extra tax credits if you were paying for 'proper' childcare? If so then it would be a no-brainer for me - I would use a (cheaper) nursery and get the extra tax credits as well! And when she turns 3 she will already be in a place where you can claim your free early years hours anyway:

https://www.gov.uk/free-early-education

Why on earth pay more than you need to for less interaction with other kids?

Your final point is a very relevant one but first.

For the best care of my daughter there is not a figure I would not pay.

My question is this

Is my daughters auntie justified in charging £65 per day to look after her whilst at the same time claiming how mush she loves her or is she taking the piss.

Bear in mind she is a stay at home mum who dosent work.

Your second point is very relevant because our little girl has had 1 on 1 attention for 2 years & has become very clingy.
 






Iggle Piggle

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Sep 3, 2010
5,281
£800 is an utter piss take. Up till 2 years old my youngest went to a nursery around where I live which was the most expensive in the area by miles. It was £58 for the day. That place was next to a private school where they charged through the nose and they taught the kids Spanish from 3.

10 grand a year for 3 days a week for a family member? Unless your sister in law is Mary poppins tell her to do one. £20 a day would be about fair.
 


Bozza

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Jul 4, 2003
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Back in Sussex
We pay less than £700 for our 3 year old to go full-time at the Wishing Tree Nursery on Carden Avenue, and you get all meals, nappies (when he needed them) & qualified staff. £800 for 3 days is ridiculous

That is unusually cheap if that is the total cost (i.e. you are not netting off 1/2 lots of childcare vouchers etc).

Our last nursery (Reflections, Worthing) was c£500 per month for 2.5 days a week, with extra fees for Forest School etc.
 




Stumpy Tim

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That is unusually cheap if that is the total cost (i.e. you are not netting off 1/2 lots of childcare vouchers etc).

Our last nursery (Reflections, Worthing) was c£500 per month for 2.5 days a week, with extra fees for Forest School etc.
So that includes £240 of childcare vouchers - we actually pay around £450. He does get the free 15 hours from the government though
 


Normal Rob

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Jul 8, 2003
5,644
Somerset
Your sister in law does not want to do it, hence quoting an extortionate price in order to make you look elsewhere. Either that or she is a thieving bitch.
 


Westdene Seagull

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Oct 27, 2003
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The arse end of Hangleton
I agree It is a long day & I'm not saying we shouldn't pay her but £65 a day cash in hand to look after your niece who you keep rattling about how much you love seems a bit of a piss take.

Given she isn't a registered child minder ( I've guessed that as you didn't answer the question ) she's pushing her luck charging more than a qualified person would. Add in the bit I've highlighted and she's probably a tax cheat as well. Tell her to do one and stop trying to rip both you and the taxpayers off.
 


Rich Suvner

Skint years RIP
Jul 17, 2003
2,500
Worthing
That is unusually cheap if that is the total cost (i.e. you are not netting off 1/2 lots of childcare vouchers etc).

Our last nursery (Reflections, Worthing) was c£500 per month for 2.5 days a week, with extra fees for Forest School etc.

Reflections is possible the most expensive nursery in Worthing though, to my knowledge.
Plenty of good childcare options for less, including childminders. Think we pay about £5 an hour for a childminder who has become like another family member in Worthing.

£800 for 3 days is a piss take.
 




Bozza

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Jul 4, 2003
55,575
Back in Sussex
Reflections is possible the most expensive nursery in Worthing though, to my knowledge.
Plenty of good childcare options for less, including childminders. Think we pay about £5 an hour for a childminder who has become like another family member in Worthing.

We toured a few and Reflections was, we thought, by far the best and when it's the care of your child you go with that sentiment, not your wallet don't you? (I'm not suggesting you did differently!)

(I've just checked my childcare vouchers account and it was c£450 a month for 2.5 days/week and that was after the 15 free hours had been taken away)
 


Hendrax

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Jan 23, 2013
3,462
Worthing
we send our 2 ( 2 and 3 yrs old) to a pre school nursery for 3 full days, 9 - 3pm, a week, costing a total of £370 a month.
 



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