Drinking problem

Fur Cough · Feb 17, 2013

Good people of NSC,

I have a "Friend" who is a triffle worried about his drinking. "He" is so bored with his life that drinking every night has become the normal thing to do, a way of numbing the, well Normal.

This "Friend" is mid fourties, overweight, f***ed achillies tendon and smokes heavily.

Any advice?

bhawoddy · Feb 17, 2013

Fur Cough said:
Good people of NSC,

I have a "Friend" who is a triffle worried about his drinking. "He" is so bored with his life that drinking every night has become the normal thing to do, a way of numbing the, well Normal.

This "Friend" is mid fourties, overweight, f***ed achillies tendon and smokes heavily.

Any advice?

The fact hes worried about it suggests he can be helped by professionals. See if he will go and see his doctor. He/she will then refer him, if its serious, to a specialist.

Pogue Mahone · Feb 17, 2013

Do what it says in your signature.

pauli cee · Feb 17, 2013

how much is he drinking, just out of interest?

upthealbion1970 · Feb 17, 2013

Fur Cough said:
Good people of NSC,

I have a "Friend" who is a triffle worried about his drinking. "He" is so bored with his life that drinking every night has become the normal thing to do, a way of numbing the, well Normal.

This "Friend" is mid fourties, overweight, f***ed achillies tendon and smokes heavily.

Any advice?

Your friend admitting he has a problem is the first step. Good luck and hope he gets sorted.

terryberry1 · Feb 17, 2013

Hope your "friend" gets his life back on track. Seeing what has happened to Gazza should be a wake up call for any drinker. Seek help and dont be ashamed.

Biscuit · Feb 17, 2013

Your friend needs a lifestyle change. Get your friend to write down a realistic list of things that they'd like to achieve. It may be 'Cut down the booze to one night a week' or 'lose a stone in weight' etc The trick is to keep the objectives realistic and achievable. Next to each 'want' write down a way of achieving it.

For example a twenty minute walk a day and keeping the booze to a smaller amount once a week will have a huge impact on the way you look and feel. It worked for me. I've used the 'My finesse pal' app and lost a stone in four weeks

my life's improved a lot.

Obviously it you feel that the drinking is the biggest factor it may be worth talking to a professional. You won't be judged and it could save your life.

Fur Cough · Feb 17, 2013

pauli cee said:
how much is he drinking, just out of interest?

5 pints minimum plus several cans monday through to Thursday, Friday gets to about 9 or 10, Saturday/Sunday much more.

pauli cee · Feb 17, 2013

Fur Cough said:
5 pints minimum plus several cans monday through to Thursday, Friday gets to about 9 or 10, Saturday/Sunday much more.

as said above, it has to be a lifestyle change, there's no use trying to do the same things but without a drink, it's nigh on impossible/bloody difficult!
i know it sounds corny, but finding hobbies/activities/something else to do, really is a good start

Pogue Mahone · Feb 17, 2013

pauli cee said:
as said above, it has to be a lifestyle change, there's no use trying to do the same things but without a drink, it's nigh on impossible/bloody difficult!
i know it sounds corny, but finding hobbies/activities/something else to do, really is a good start

Also, the fact that it seems to be beer will be the main reason that weight has become a problem. That's an expensive habit in so many ways, and a lifestyle change using the money currently being spent on beer and fags is the only way forward. Go to the gym, get out on a bike etc. You'd be amazed at how people with addictive personalities can transfer their addictions to something more healthy.

Titus · Feb 17, 2013

Friend my arse. Just give it up.

Fur Cough · Feb 17, 2013

Biscuit said:
Your friend needs a lifestyle change. Get your friend to write down a realistic list of things that they'd like to achieve. It may be 'Cut down the booze to one night a week' or 'lose a stone in weight' etc The trick is to keep the objectives realistic and achievable. Next to each 'want' write down a way of achieving it.

For example a twenty minute walk a day and keeping the booze to a smaller amount once a week will have a huge impact on the way you look and feel. It worked for me. I've used the 'My finesse pal' app and lost a stone in four weeks my life's improved a lot.

Obviously it you feel that the drinking is the biggest factor it may be worth talking to a professional. You won't be judged and it could save your life.

Curiously my life from the outside looks perfect, A loving wife, two wonderful daughters and and 4 fantastic granchildren.

Scared now, I just can't stop drinking.

smeariestbat · Feb 17, 2013

well at least your 'friend' realises he has a problem. my actual friend had an alcohol induced seizure due to withdrawal. he detoxed and was clean for about 6 months. back on the sauce now, refuses to acknowledge he has a problem. He argued the only time he got sick was when he tried to give up alcohol. Dont let it get this far.

edit: heavy smoker and terrible diet too, any attempt at addressing the issue upsets him and makes him get angry. Unless he accepts he has a problem, there is nothing anyone can do for him.

Fur Cough · Feb 17, 2013

Titus said:
Friend my arse. Just give it up.

Of course it's not my "Friend" hence the reason I put Friend in " "

Tried to give it up, can't. Asked for advice on here knowing there would be others.

Alonso Moseley · Feb 17, 2013

About six months ago I realised I had been drinking far too much for too long, running pubs for fifteen years or more. One day I just felt like I had to do something about it. I jogged down to the Hove Lawns and spluttered through two of them and back. Pushed myself the next day and then the next, and now I go running all the time, drink wine a few times a week and have lost all the excessive weight I had. I really enjoy it and it's opened up lots of other physical stuff I had forgotten about, which makes me feel good.

smeariestbat · Feb 17, 2013

if there isnt alcohol in the house you wont drink it. dont go to the pub, dont take money to the amex with you so you cant buy beer

nick c · Feb 17, 2013

Fur Cough said:
Curiously my life from the outside looks perfect, A loving wife, two wonderful daughters and and 4 fantastic granchildren.

Scared now, I just can't stop drinking.

If your serious about quitting drinking and find you simply can't stop you may want to try Alcoholics Anonymous,few people on here that could help.

hybrid_x · Feb 17, 2013

its about removing the triggers - dont sit in the "drinking chair" - also do some excersice - running or something - it will create positivity in the void where drinking once was. learn something new - photography, a language, computer game - whatever - just fill the void, and remove the trigger places and people.

Nibble · Feb 17, 2013

Have a chat with your GP, be honest and set yourself on the path to recovery. Isolating yourself with alcohol is half the problem. Talking to a pro about it is the first very important step. You will conquer this.

Tricky Dicky · Feb 17, 2013

Fur Cough said:
5 pints minimum plus several cans monday through to Thursday, Friday gets to about 9 or 10, Saturday/Sunday much more.

I had several years of drinking at least a bottle of red every night (and I mean EVERY night). Towards the end I wasn't enjoying it at all but couldn't stop as I thought I wouldn't be able to sleep and work would suffer. I figured I was on my way to potentially having a problem, so cut down and almost stopped and 4 years later am very pleased I did. Wasn't particularly easy at first, but once you start it gets easier.

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