15 years ago, a friend/client ended up paying £200k in legals and experts in a divorce.
Assets including a business were worth £1.2m. The wife walked on him and following advice from her new boyfriend, chose a City firm of lawyers, who in turn used City based chartered surveyors and...
She ‘got’ the £187,500, but at least you have a fresh start now without her. As painful as that is with your love for the kids.
Good luck with everything.
There's also that old chestnut in Family Law that the wife was the backbone behind hubby having a successful career.
The same ... wishing @Alba Badger all the best.
One of my brothers got 100/0 in his clean break divorce. At age 32 I think, he had to start all over again with zero assets.
Out of interest, what happened to both of your accrued pension funds, were they spilt too or did you both retain them?