Solicitor's will do this, in the name of maximising their client's interests, but it will enrich them.
From many of the insightful posts above, mediation appears the best route, with solicitors signing off the agreed moves at the very end. Be firm to avoid their final attempt to stir dispute.
4. Last Summer - look after your self, as well as the kids. Do what makes YOU feel a bit better, see your GP, get counselling, look after yourself physically, allow yourself to cry, talk, whatever it takes over time. Your life matters.
You've made really important points.
If there's any hope of staying together and making a new start, beyond the raw emotions for example if one party had cheated on the other, especially if there are kids both parties should give it every last opportunity within reason. Couples and families...
Do what makes YOU feel better. It might be a duvet day, watching football, meeting a friend. Do not let your career, health, fitness, self care go to pot.
Go to legal mediation. Do not line the pockets of two firms of solicitors, who thrive on division. Protect your financial interests, so...