Given that this is your opinion, I’m struggling to see what objection you have to Tom and Dustin having a baby...they meet your preferred genders for parents perfectly.
Top, top post. I wish you and your family all the very best.
I have two sets of friends who have adopted - both went through a nightmare selection process too. It seems as though that’s a common experience. I was the employer of on of them and the local authority interviewed me face to face...