I got to see them live in Cardiff in 2008 when instead of the Millennium Stadium as scheduled they ended up playing the Cardiff International Arena (multiple theories exist as to how this ended up being the case - poor ticket sales seems the most common and likely one), which is about the size...
The former, mainly on the grounds that Stipe didn't write it.
Although REM always split official credit equally 4 ways, this was predominantly a Bill Berry composition which, so far as I know, had nothing to do with Cobain's death.