If you need to ask a bunch of knobheads on NSC whether you should make a massive life decision then it might not be just her that has issues.
If she was really, really the one for you then you'd be overlooking her obsessive behaviour and utilising that photographic memory at the casino.
If se really does have a photographic memory you'd better be prepared to have every mistake you make being raked up in every argument from now until your dying day.
Of course it sounds like she is on the spectrum but, having been with a range of women from all different classes, backgrounds...