I don't think you want t prop them up either though - Gadaffi would have fallen anyway eventually, and Asad is in a mess of his own doing. Then you become even more the enemy when they inevitably fall.
Long-term: Have a real think about policy towards Israel/Palestine, support for undemocratic Arab regimes, and poverty in Muslim countries. Be prepared to work with Iran. Accept that in some countries Islamist governments will be democratically and legitimately elected. Be prepared to accept...