- Jul 10, 2003
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I quite like the idea of a parent 'giving away' their child, whether it be father/daughter, mother/son or any other combination. My only problem at the moment is I can't find anyone to take the buggers 
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[News] Should a father give away his daughter when she gets married ?
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Thunder Bolt
Silly old bat
Kind of outdated marriage really....
One man (your father) gives you a woman away, to another man (your chosen partner)
Women are not property, but a she is a person in her own right.....
#metoo would have a field day.....
That depends on how you look at it, If you feel the woman is property, then I can understand not liking it, but if you look at it, from care and protection then it becomes a loving gesture.
It's like everything else in life. it's not what happens but how you think of it.
I was proud to walk down the aisle with my Dad, and then later on, with my son.
It was also a way of honouring them with being there for me.
brighton_girl87
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- Jul 18, 2006
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I'm getting married in a few months and my mum will be walking me down the aisle. I think my bridesmaids will do the father of the bride speech, as my mum is too nervous.
Hampster Gull
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btnbelle
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- Apr 26, 2017
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Historically man giveth the woman to another man.
What is wrong with a lovely lady has much love for a gentleman and decides that she would like to commit herself to him until death they do part?
Although i personally would not need a license from the state to stay committed, i can understand others wanting to formalise their relationship.
Thunder Bolt
Silly old bat
The giving of a woman goes back over 100 years. Now it's just a tradition.
Marriage isn't just a licence from the state (or church) nor is it just a formalisation of commitment. There are very strong legal arguments for it, especially when one spouse dies.
Eddiespearritt
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Walking my only daughter down the aisle in a couple of weeks. Will be one of the proudest days of my life. Nothing to do with passing property from one man to another - just a great moment in both of our lives.
cloud
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It's just a tradition, no big deal. It's also odd having a breakfast in the afternoon, and having a best man but not a best woman, all just part of the day.
Coldeanseagull
Opinionated
Giving your daughter away is not so much losing your daughter to another man, it's more about gaining a spare room
I’m sure at the time it didn’t sound as creepy as how I just read it.
- Jan 3, 2012
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I gave away both my daughters. If they (And i) had thought it meant that, we would have done it differently.
My eldest daughter (26) has told me that she doesn’t want to be given away if/when she marries “the clue’s in the name, Dad”. My youngest (21) has said “it’d be nice if you did; it’s traditional and I think you’d like to, wouldn’t you?”
I have no strong feelings either way - if they’d like me to, that’s great; if not, that’s fine too. I’m far more interested in the qualities of the bloke they choose to marry (if indeed they marry at all) than the logistics of how it gets done. Not my call, of course, but I’d hope they choose someone who is a decent human being.
btnbelle
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- Apr 26, 2017
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A woman doesn't need giving. She is capable of giving herself. The tradition goes back to a time when few women had any financial resources and her father passed that responsibility onto another man, her husband. In many cultures this is still the case today.
I understand what your saying about legal benefits of marriage and for many that is a good reason to marry. For others marriage is outdated. There is a case being heard this week for civil partnerships for heterosexual couples.
Of course a considerable number of couples don't marry at all. They have children and the law should provide for these families too.
Family law is outdated on both sides.
Thunder Bolt
Silly old bat
Which is why I said it is just a tradition now.
Jam The Man
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My step daughter wants her mum to do it as she feels her dad hasn't put enough effort into her life. He left the family home when she was 2.
btnbelle
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- Apr 26, 2017
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Not for all cultures unfortunately.