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    Quote Originally Posted by darkwolf666 View Post
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    It’s been very, very difficult to get the two older children the help they need and deserve. There is a current mantra that not all disabilities are visible, which definitely applies in their case. Because of this it has been very difficult to get people to understand their problems and needs. We are finally getting somewhere, but I do really worry about their futures and what safety nets will be there to catch them when we are no longer around to help them!
    I remember the near impossible task of getting a 'Statement' - for some needs it can take years while your children's childhood dwindles away, plus the specialist solicitors charge £20k in fighting a council. In the end many parents who are middle or higher earners give up and go private with a SEN child, making huge sacrifices, taking on extra jobs.

    Parents with autistic kids have told me the same thing as you, worries for their kids post-18, their life prospects and what will happen when the parents are not around.

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      You’ve got one life, don’t spend 5 days a week 47 weeks a year being miserable where you work.

      I worked in the private sector until I was 40, well paid, but it was often 6 days a week and evenings, office politics, brown nosing to get anywhere, keeping the head down when clients were lost and redundancy fears were circulating, and I hated it.

      Managed to get a job at uni, took a 30% pay cut, had to sell the car, cycle to work 11 miles each way initially, wife not happy, but I loved it and haven’t looked back. Wear jeans and T shirt instead of a suit and more through luck than judgement now talk about football...ish for a living after realising that students took far more interest in the subject when football was being mentioned. The rewards are seeing light bulbs going on in heads and hearing about their success stories following graduation, far more rewarding than anything monetary.

      Go for it, work hard and believe in yourself.

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      I escaped from the working life you mention, in my 40's. All the same things - unpleasant superiors, brown-nosing, stayism (working very late) by the most useless creeps, staff blamed when clients left as they couldn't stand the boss, gossiping. Wearing an uncomfortable and hot suit.

      Through experience, I always anyone and everyone to leave a job or career they hate as soon as possible. On the NSC mental health threads, work is often a contributory factor or the factor!
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      You can be taught the job from another brickie. You don't need any academic qualifications to get the job. This is the same for some other manual labour intensive jobs. You can be taught how to do it on site so to speak. An electrician for example doesn't need a degree but does need to pass the exams to demonstrate his comptency. I'm aware sometimes I write in a matter of fact way and some people might think I'm a bit abrupt but I do not intend to cause offence or belittle anyone that does bricklaying etc, it looks like bloody hard work. However you don't need to do well at school to do the job. You do need to do well at school academically if you want to enter a professional field. Like dentistry, doctor, surveyor etc which personally I want my kids to aspire to .
      I don't think you were being abrupt it just seems strange to equate academic qualifications. I've got a degree and post-grad qualifications. My brother's work in the building trade. I'd wouldn't think for a second that I was more skilled. I'm certainly not better paid.
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      I feel I need to add to this myth about the building trade, when you have been around it all your life you get to appreciate different trades and their skills. So many people, one think it’s easy it’s not. And two it takes years to master a particular trade not 6 months working with your brother in law. Every job throws up it own set of problems and it’s knowing how to get round them is where the years of graft come in. Do your time nothing wrong with that but honestly your not going to be any good for about 4-5 years and after that period your still a newbie to the old heads.
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      I feel I need to add to this myth about the building trade, when you have been around it all your life you get to appreciate different trades and their skills. So many people, one think it’s easy it’s not. And two it takes years to master a particular trade not 6 months working with your brother in law. Every job throws up it own set of problems and it’s knowing how to get round them is where the years of graft come in. Do your time nothing wrong with that but honestly your not going to be any good for about 4-5 years and after that period your still a newbie to the old heads.
      Bricklaying was always considered, officially, to be a semi skilled trade. In reality an experienced bricklayer who cares about his work is a skilled tradesman. Especially if they have more to their bow than knocking up lookalike boxes for the large housebuilders.
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      Please, please, please.
      Just don't become an electrician....
      Or a plumber

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      Or a plumber

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      Or a multi trade ie. a wanker who’s shit at everything lots of them in Screwfix
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      Bruno became a PL player at 36!!
      Murray will captain England at the next world cup. Probably at football
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      Had a career in IT for 10 years, then did some property developing until the crash, and then became a photographer. So no career over 10 years yet

      I've enjoyed them all to be honest, although I do get more satisfaction from photography (which is just as well, as I earn less than before). I also get to be a part time house husband.
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      I was working for a software services company where one of the Sales guys decided he wanted a change. He was 45, didn't enjoy it any more and frankly was finding it hard to keep up with all the new developments. He'd always like plumbing, so he decided to become a plumber. He did some jobs for colleagues, and used those people as references. The company were really good, they let him take time off to do a part-time course in return for a salary sacrifice. He registered on one of those tradespeople job sites and used the (genuine) references he'd received from his colleagues to get more jobs. Eventually the company made him redundant, (which he wanted) and he used the pay-off to give him a bit more 'runway' whilst the plumbing took off.

      This was a few years ago and I'm not in contact with them any more, so sadly I can't give you an update as to what happened and how successful he was.

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