It's not a question of lager vs ale. It's a question of mega-scale vs small-scale, and most of the mega-scale beer makers happen to be lagers.
The basic chemistry is the same (yeast + sugar = alcohol), but the method of getting there is different. No one at Heineken for example is standing over...
Most of my gay friends drink (decent) wine or craft beer.
One thing pretty much all my gay friends have in common, however, is that they all drink a lot. But then, pretty much all my straight friends drink a lot as well. Maybe that just says something about me...