Those on here saying 'just ignore it' or 'its just banter' or whatever really need to think again, as your post shows.
Sad to read about the abuse outside the ground too. It's often pretty awful stuff being shouted in comparison to the 'does your boyfriend know your here' type chant inside the...
But you could have said (and I'm sure
a lot of people did) the same about racism back in the day. I don't get upset about it, but I'm glad that it's dying out - certainly compared to 10 or so years ago. People are right to call it out if it happens.