Wouldn't it be more appropriate if your gender neutral nephew, had a gender neutral name like 'table' or 'washing machine', poor Janice must be very confused.
Sorry there are too many good quotes from this 'news' report to single out just one or two, enjoy the read.
https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-44809213?ns_campaign=bbcnews&ocid=socialflow_twitter&ns_mchannel=social&ns_source=twitter